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If I have baby will I....

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IStillMissBlockbuster · 27/06/2019 18:06

Suddenly want to speak in a baby voice to it? It makes me cringe right now.
Will I be unable to lose pregnancy weight?
Will I ever have peace and quiet?
Will I love it? Like it?
Is it bad to have these questions?

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Drogonssmile · 27/06/2019 18:13

It's definitely not bad to have any questions!
IMO, you will love it but not necessarily like it all the time.
I never spoke in a baby voice to mine. Just normal voice.
I lost baby weight and more with my first.
not my second though
Peace and quiet.......erm. Probably best making the most of it while you have it as it may be scarce for some time!

mindutopia · 27/06/2019 18:19

You probably won’t have much peace and quiet, but it’s much easier to have your own headspace if you plan to go back to work after.

How it affects your body depends very much on your lifestyle and how much time and space you have after. I didn’t gain much weight with either of mine, but I have still gained weight overall. I actually thought it was much harder after baby arrived as you have little time for yourself and don’t have much time to cook healthy meals like you might have. It’s a lot of grabbing whatever you can when you have time to eat.

You will not necessarily speak in annoying voices. I’ve never been that type. I have two dc and I still don’t really like children. I love my own but have no interest in coming over anyone else’s.

mindutopia · 27/06/2019 18:20

*cooing over anyone else’s! Blush

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StandardPoodle · 27/06/2019 19:08

It's an exciting and terrifying time.
I didn't use a "baby" voice for either DS, or use "baby" words, just the adult terms.
I was fortunate and lost my baby weight shortly after both births - breast feeding really seemed to help that.
And yes, they drive you mad but you do love them, and worry about them even when they're adult

IStillMissBlockbuster · 27/06/2019 20:46

Thank you for replying. I'm scared I would lose myself.

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LemonPrintSundress · 27/06/2019 20:49

Not bad to have those questions!

Baby talk can also be called motherese and is actually really important for the development of language in babies.

You will have peace and quiet again.

You will love your baby, eventually. Don't worry if you don't feel it immediately. It might be when they smile first, or when you first leave them. But it will come.

Celebelly · 27/06/2019 20:54

My DD is 4.5 months now.

I don't use a 'baby' voice but I do use a certain kind of voice, probably a bit higher pitched and enthusiastic than usual. It's the same one I use for the dog Grin

I never really enjoyed other people's children before having mine, but having your own is completely different to spending time with other people's kids. I absolutely adore her and while it's sometimes tough, she makes me smile and laugh every day and I would never be without her now.

Soola · 27/06/2019 20:55

Suddenly want to speak in a baby voice to it? It makes me cringe right now. - I do confess to occasionally saying moo cow but it’s never stopped me getting a table in The Ivy. You don’t have to use baby talk.

Will I be unable to lose pregnancy weight? Yes of course! I was slim before and after I had children. If you’re already fat then it’s likely you’ll still be fat whether you have a baby or not.

Will I ever have peace and quiet? Yes of course. Babies sleep a lot so plenty of time to catch up on sleep. I’ve never understood all this I’ve had a baby I’m so tired.

Will I love it? Like it? You will form a natural bond at some point.

BobbyBrewstersMagicTorch · 27/06/2019 20:59

I read a pregnancy book when I was newly-pregnant, and there was a photograph of a woman with the longest nipples I have ever seen, and I was convinced that that happened to all women!

I had so many fears, but really it's nothing to worry about, it will all seem normal to you, honestly.

PointeShoesandTutus · 27/06/2019 21:07

You don’t have to go completely ‘ga ga’ and use a baby voice, but psychologically Mothers are programmed to speak in more of a high pitched, singsong voice to help brain development, so you’ll probably find yourself doing it without realising. I only noticed that I do it when I hear videos of myself. You definitely don’t have to go down the ‘wickle kitty catty’ baby language though.

You will lose baby weight, but you might not be quite the same shape you were. I’m the same weight as I was pre pregnancy, but definitely bigger around the boobs/rib cage area and the lower stomach. I think it’s easier if you don’t put huge amounts on though, I only gained about 1.5 stone in total. It did take about 6 months to get off.

Peace and quiet is definitely harder to come by. I don’t know what kind of angel baby @soola has, but no one I know has a baby that sleeps a lot. Sleeping like a baby is a bloody joke, and when your baby wakes every hour, you get tired. Mine has never slept through and she’s 13 months, so piss off with your ‘not understanding’ @soola. Having said that, life takes on a slower pace in many respects, so you can carve out peace for yourself. And ultimately, they grow up, and the peace and quiet returns.

You won’t love, or even like, parenting all of the time. There’s shit bits. But the good bits are sooo good it’s all worthwhile. The highs and lows are more extreme I guess. I definitely don’t regret it for one minute.

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