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Any social workers about?

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 14:50

Hi, just need some advice about my 17 year old.
i had a thread running a while ago about my DS but cant get onto my other account as dont remember password and i have lost my phone which remembers my passwords etc. anyway the thread was about how hes got into terrorism, far right groups and that is just the tip of the iceberg , DS is working and i dont get child benefit for him, this week we got an eviction notice as he wont provide wage slips so housing benefit has been suspended. anyway childrens services have been ringing me to have him back basically. i cant, my other kids are now at risk of homelessness and apart from that he is making life hell, my younger 2 camt even sleep till at least midnight as he wont let them when hes here.
my DS is 17, yesterday i chucked him out and said he can go to his dads, which he did. his dad is saying he wont have him, well i certainly wont. where do i stand and what will happen? i dont know what to do.
i feel like im heading towards a total breakdown and cant parent my younger 2 adequately while he is here.
so what will happen now, can they make me take him back?
he sets fires while we are sleeping, he wakes my kids up while sleeping, i just really really can not cope.

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kimlo · 27/06/2019 14:55

if he's in to far right groups and terrorism tell ss. They will have someone incharge of prevent duty.

HappyHammy · 27/06/2019 14:58

Id contact the police and social services Prevent team.

EAIOU · 27/06/2019 14:59

I remember your thread OP. I cannot believe you are still in this situation.

Did the police or social services ever help you after the allegations from your younger two?

You have no choice but to get him out. He is destroying your family. you've done everything and you must feel so alone in this 💐

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 15:00

i have done that, channel became involved but he wont engage unfortunately. he says he will them makes himself unavailable. we have had so many services involved over the last 3 months but nothing has got us anywhere.
childrens services put them all on a child in need plan and was looking for supported housing for ds but its been ages now and nothing is happening.
i feel crap but can not see what to do anymore.

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 15:03

because ds2 took back the allegations after speaking to ds1 they didnt do anything, ss just leep saying ds1 is vulnerable amd yes he is but so are my younger 2 amd now we have a notice of possesion all because he is too selfish to provide wage slips in case he has to pay something.
hes not coming back here i just hope they cant force me to.

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Travis1 · 27/06/2019 15:35

I don't think they can force you to and FWIW I think you are doing the right thing.

Theworldcouldbemymollusc · 27/06/2019 15:43

You can sign a section 20 agreement so that the local authority has a duty to accommodate him.

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 20:16

I spoke to them and it wasn't my usual social worker as she's not in and she agreed nd said signpost ds to his dads and don't let him in and if necessary to ring emergency team. I'll look into that section 20 now, thankyou . And thank you also to previous poster :)

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 20:18

I did say today that they have a duty to house him and she said no as he isn't at risk of abuse from either parent

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Littlemac1 · 27/06/2019 20:21

House is very calm tonight! Might even get the kids to bed before midnight! :) been a while

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GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies · 27/06/2019 21:30

Firstly you need to go back to the benefits office to confirm your son is under 18, therefore his earnings are not counted. That should give you some respite over the finances .

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 18:35

I did that and they said that his correct as long as i am getting child benefit but I am not. So he is not classed as a dependant

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 18:36

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 18:51

Enough is enough, there's terrorism , allegations of abuse to make just 2. I've now been given a notice of possesio n. His dad just spoke to emergency social worker who said they don't have to do anything and he has to stay with us. Is there anything we can legally do, I can't deal with this anymore if it ends up with a case of child abandonment i am at a point where I don't care. He's absolutely not coming back here as heartless as that sounds

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GimmieTheCoffeeAndNooneDies · 28/06/2019 18:59

Google 'non dependant deductions', that will confirm what I said. They don't kick in until the 18th birthday.

MamaOfBothTeams · 28/06/2019 19:00

So sorry to hear you are still having problems OP, I remember your other threads and really hoped it had calmed down for you Thanks

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 20:21

I googled, you're right! Housing benefit plus housing association insistent that it doesn't count as no child benefit with him not being in education! Gonna go see someone at CAB on Monday to clarify

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 20:23

Channel came round today and also agreed with them saying it's the child benefit issue. I do hope they're mistaken

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Littlemac1 · 28/06/2019 22:49

Thank you Mamaofbothteams

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