WWYD next door neighbour died

[goldangel]

Hi
Our next door neighbour died yesterday, he was in his 70's, his partner is now alone. Son is with her. We've been neighbours over 10 years and they have watched our dc grow up. It's incredibly sad. It's the first death our dc have experienced of someone they know personally.

I'm wondering if I should turn up with some food or something or just give them space.

Any thoughts on what's best to do?

Thanks

I'm always wary of offering help in these situations. While I would be happy to offer short term assistance I wouldn't want the family to think 'needs is next door anyway' and shirk their own responsibility, especially if they don't live close by. Don't start cooking for them unless it's something you would be happy to keep doing

FFS, the widowed neighbour is in her 70s, not 105. Lots of people in their 70s are still working and hundreds of thousands provide regular childcare for GC, never mind doing their own cooking. There are probably more people in their 70s supporting younger relatives via childcare etc than the other way round.

@XXcstatic

What do you mean by FFS and a rant about age?

I literally never mentioned age. The situation I said I was wary of can apply to any person of any age

Also you missed the rest of my post

There are far too many threads on Mumsnet where people offer help and get absolutely tied in to something they never wanted and can't seem to break away from. I'm not judging your neighbour, but be cautious of offering help. She has her family

Which also doesn't refer to age.

It does how we refer to many threads where posters are taking other peoples DC to/from school, looking after them when they don't want to, asking for money because the person kindly lent them once etc.

Absolutely nothing to do with age.