Hi, first post here! Am hoping for some advice. I'm 35 and my partner and I have just got married - which was lovely. We would like to start trying for a baby 'soon' but there are some important questions to think about first and I'd welcome any perspectives people have to offer - as there's some big decisions to make over the next 12 months!
We both work in Central London in jobs that pay the rent on our flat and bills and are pretty secure (though my company is all over the place at the moment) - but we hate the stressful jobs we're in and both want to leave. Commuting is stressful and I can't handle the though of commuting in pregnant.
We are thinking it would be good to move to be closer to my parents in Norfolk for child support and where homes are cheaper (and a slower pace of life), but his Mum needs to move away from London as she's on her own now and sell her house first to move in with her daughter and children in another part of the country.
I'm keen to get started with our new lives but my partner is hesitant - he wants more job experience (even though he's nearly 40) and he wants to move his Mum out of London first. I'm frustrated.
So what should we do? Try to pregnant now? Have a home first before getting pregnant? Leave my job and take some much-needed time off (but lose out on mat leave and mortgage).
So confused and finding it hard to know what to do! Any perspectives to help clarify things a little bit or explore any options we may not have thought of would be welcomed.