School kids, physical violence, how to handle?

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Can anyone give me some tips please?

My DD (yo) is having trouble with 2 lads in her class. It seems to be escalating. Yesterday she said they were screaming and shouting right in her face during football but then today as they were in the corridor waiting to come out of school one of them elbowed her in the face and the other stood and out all of his weight onto her left foot.

Apparently she came out in floods of tears (my DM picked her up from school) and then I've been told tonight. There's a really red mark on her cheek where she was elbowed.

I'm thinking of writing a letter to DDs class teacher that DD can take in the morning. They don't let you in to see teachers in the morning anymore so I'm thinking a letter will let her know as soon as possible and she can call me if she needs to in the day.

Is that reasonable? This can't carry on.

I'd be straight on the phone in the morning as soon as the office opens.

I would be wanting a meeting in school.
How old are they?

Year 4, DD is 8 years old. Phone rather than a letter?

Absolutely. I would be phoning to arrange a meeting.

I would be wanting to speak (preferably) in person with the most appropriate member of staff.
With persistent violence like that I would say secondary would be a head of year level meeting but as primaries don't have that then it might be a member of senior leadership.

Call as soon as the office opens and explain that you are concerned and would like to speak to an appropriate member of staff about multiple incidents of violence towards your DC.

Year 4?!?! 😲😲😲 get straight into school and complain. Take pictures of any other marks or injuries and ask about cctv as many schools will have that in high traffic areas.
I'm so sorry this is happening. No student should feel unsafe at school.

Photos. Paper trail. Send her in with a letter and telephone.

Brill, thanks for the advice I will call first thing tomorrow. I am bloody rubbish with confrontation on things like this.

Don't see it as a confrontation. More a 'ok school this has happened, how can we work towards ensuring it doesn't happen again'

Good tip thank you!

How did you get on OP?

Thanks for asking! Yes it was fine, I called and left a message but she hadn't got back to me by pick up time so she called me and DD back into the classroom. I explained the incident.

The next day she asked the 2 boys to apologise to DD, one did and one refused!

An apology is a start. What is the consequence?

I honestly don't think they got a consequence.

Then the school aren't taking bullying seriously and I'd be getting in touch with the governors. This behaviour has to be nipped early.