There is a woman who is the mother of one of dc's friends, who acts in a way I have never known- and Im hoping someone here might provide insight as to why she is the way she is.
Ive been civilised to her for the past few years for the sake of the dc, always felt uncomfortable and uptight around her.
However recently she has crossed the borders of simple rudeness. I wanted my dc to go to a certain secondary school in our village, and she spent two years telling me how awful it was. Then she decided to "secretly" (yes she didn't want me to know which was ridiculous , her dc told me when I asked her about it she said he dc wasn't meant to say anything!) put her dc in the exact same school we had picked years ago, despite lots of other choice.
When both of them got to the new secondary school, I noticed a pattern. My dc would make friends with someone, then this woman would invite the new friend over to hers house for sleepovers etc while excluding my dc and stopped inviting her to anything at all . This happened with 2-3 friends times and my dc got very upset .I encouraged dc to make sure her friend wasn't been left out as I know they both wanted to spread their wings a bit, but its a very tiny school so its a good idea to get on well and nobody wants to think of any child being left out.
I decided to speak to this woman on the phone, thinking maybe she hadn't realised my dc felt led out, but she was absolutely vile and said rather proudly- and coldly- her dc no longer wanted to be friends with mine and "to get over it" and hung up on me- they'd been good friends for years by this point and my dc was heartbroken.
The next day her dc said it wasn't true she didn't want to be friends, and no idea why her mum said that...
Why is would anyone act like this? I find is very odd if she was so determined for the friendship to end, that she would follow us to the school and has tried to interfere with all dc friendships, it feels so cruel if Im honest.
I have known several people, all unconnected, who normally don't have issues with anyone, but have also said privately they cannot stand this woman as she is cold and rude to them and makes them feel inferior.She seems to ignore anyone without some sort of status or excessive wealth, (despite not being hugely wealthy and I have no idea what her background is).
Yesterday she blocked dh in on the school run and normally she ignores him- but she looked to pleased she apparently had a smug, odd smile and kept staring at him which made wonder if she actually gets pleasure from being unpleasant? Why is she like this? My dc is still friends with her dc- and our younger dc are the same school too so we can't get away from her, but want to figure out why she is like this. Theres other things she's done, but Ive tried to not turn into in essay.
Has she just got a terrible personality, has some sort of self esteem or actually unwell mentally? Thank you