So my DP and I have been together about 1 year 3 months. We aren’t young, I’m 30 he is 40. We are super happy that we are expecting a baby in December! He mentioned a few months ago looking for a ring for me so we are currently designing an engagement ring and we are really happy together. We have just exchanged in a house we move into at the end of the summer and can’t wait to start our family together. I had some pretty awful heartbreaks in my 20s with some idiot guys and am super happy to have finally found someone I click with and who treats me right.
A friend of mine the same age as me recently split up with her long term partner. He hasn’t been very nice to her, and she has fallen into the trap of going back and sleeping with him (I get it- we have all been there- but know that it makes everything a lot worse). Another friend and myself we looking into getting her 2 kittens (she LOVES cats) to cheer her up but she now says she wants to go abroad to get away from it all so can’t have them.
She has started making comments to me about me “forcing” him to propose to me and buy us a house, and that I got pregnant on purpose to “lock him down” and it really bothers me. I haven’t mentioned anything and just brush it off, I’m not sure whether she says it in a jokey way or not and I know she’s not in the best place at the moment.
So my question is... do I mention it to her or sit down with her and explain it’s not the right way to talk to me? I really wouldn’t dream of saying something similar to her but know she’s in a really crappy place and might not mean it.