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Sinead11 · 25/06/2019 21:23

Ok this is looooooong so sorry in advance.

I come from a small town in Ireland where everyone knows everyone. I hate it. I moved to Liverpool for uni when I was 18 and was there for 10 years. I feel like my soul is home when I'm there. Had my first baby there, me and my partner went through rough patches but were doing good, I fell pregnant again. He has kids from a previous relationship. We decided we would all move into a bigger house to be a family unit. Then things deteriorated quickly from there. Normal relationship problems. Anyway we split up. He left the house. I couldn't afford to keep it on by myself. I was 8 months pregnant with a 2 year old and no money and no family around. So I moved back home to Ireland. I didn't want to leave. I had no choice. We've been staying at my mums and I've been able to pay off my credit card and save a few thousand pound. So I'm in a better position financially. I made plans whilst on maternity leave for a job in Ireland and a school for my now 3 year old. Trouble is I feel I only did those things to keep my family happy. I don't really want to be here. I feel really homesick for Liverpool. The childrens father comes over every month or so to see them. They have lots of cousins and stuff here. But it feels wrong. My 3 year old is really missing his dad. I feel like he's being deprived. Also I love my job in Liverpool and cant see me working anywhere else. But I would be totally alone. I can't rely on the childrens father to help out as he has other commitments.

WWYD?
Stay in Ireland? Or go back to Liverpool?

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sleepynewmumxo · 25/06/2019 21:59

Why can't you rely on the father to help out? Because he might have other commitments, but he also has commitments with you.

Sinead11 · 25/06/2019 23:50

His work pattern, the hours he works and other children. I asked if he could request more family friendly hours, to help out with evenings. But the hours suit him and his other ex partner for when he has their kids. Their school would be far away from nursery and the traffic is bad so he could'nt bring or collect our 2.

He's had his reasons before so I've tried not to factor him into the desision making process. And anything extra is a bonus.

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