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What are you currently worried about?

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BentBaastard · 25/06/2019 20:17

For me

Ds17 is waiting to hear if he’s got the job he applied for and interviewed for on Friday. I’m desperate for him to get it but trying to be as laid back as he is being.

Ds14 is away on a residential with very little information on Twitter and no contact for 7 days. I miss him.

Dh hates his job and wants to leave immediately without a job to go to.

My friend has just found out she’s got cancer in nearly all the orifices in her body from an unchecked mole. I’m devastated for her and worried.

Sorry this isn’t very cheerful but it’s quite cathartic to write it down.

OP posts:
Geminiwitch22 · 25/06/2019 20:30

For me:
Neighbour owes me £300 and now trying to start trouble.
DS has a grading for karate on Saturday and very nervous for him.
Ex making life difficult keeps changing job and complaining that he only sees DS because of jobs, but wants to see DS more
Job has been changing my hours on and off, then not paying me what I expected for taking on a bigger job role, oh and had 3 clients die in three months, one was a regular I saw daily since novemeber. Colleagues phoning me in tears over this.

so yeah your not alone!

Eminybob · 25/06/2019 20:36

Poor you, that’s a lot on your plate. Flowers for your friend Sad

For me:

DS1 - really worried about his behaviour, he’s acting out at school and regularly having to have the head intervene as he’s lashing out/kicking. He’s only 4 and I think he’s just really overwhelmed and anxious. His first term was the worst, he was great the middle term, and this term he seems to be going backwards again. Don’t know what to do for him.

DS2 - currently weaning which I find so hard, he basically refuses to eat. He’s only 7 months so I know “food before 1 is just for fun” but I still worry. I was the same with ds1 though to be fair. Also just wish he’d start sleeping better. I’m on my knees with tiredness but he’s BF so I know it’s going to be like this for a while.

I’m also constantly anxious about some home improvements that were done over a year ago and totally botched by cowboy tradesmen, but I found it all too stressful at the time to complain/do anything about it (and dh is fucking useless when it comes to that stuff) so every time I use the room I feel sick looking at the imperfections. Ridiculous I know but it literally stresses me out every single day and there is nothing I can do about it now.

I do feel a bit better getting all that out tbh.

TemporaryPermanent · 25/06/2019 20:43

I'm applying for a research project at work which feels like a huge step up, don't know if I can do it.

I'm being reckless in my sex life and feel like the chickens will come home to roost in some form.

There's an imminent marriage break up in my immediate family, i know about it but one of the marital couple involved doesn't. feels like a sword waiting to drop. Hoping against hope it might not happen.

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BentBaastard · 25/06/2019 20:45

💐🧁🍫🍷 for us all

I’m usually ok really but ds is so desperate to work and they said they would let him know today.....

Ds2 is fine I’m sure.

I just have to be there for my friend but I’m devastated for her. She’s only 38.

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IGottaSeeJane · 25/06/2019 20:48

MIL is going into full-time care and it's stressing DW out to the point I'm more worried about her than MIL.

DD is ill with chronic condition and improvement is slower than we would like (but she is improving).

DS's firm is re-locating and he's running the move and getting stressed to blazes over it all.

MsDevine89 · 25/06/2019 20:49

My job isnt very secure due to budget restraints in my organisation. I have been told that if we cant get the funding ill go back to my old role which on a positive is secure and i enjoy it but effectively ill be taking a step back again.... and although its due to funding cant help but feel maybe I've not performed as well as i could have done?

Fairylea · 25/06/2019 20:49

Op gosh I feel sorry for you, that’s a lot to cope with - your poor friend! Sad

I am in an anxiety riddled pickle about our impending 5 hour drive to wales in 2 weeks time for our holiday. It will be the longest and furthest I’ve ever driven in my 9 years of driving (there will be dh in the car with me and two dc but dh doesn’t drive) and I’m really nervous about it. Motorways and whatever else. And just worried. Even though I do normally drive longish distances all the time on dual carriageways etc. Urgh. Makes me feel sick just thinking about it!

Also very nervous about all kinds of things to do with our house when we’re away. Totally irrational really but worried it will have some horrendous leak or blow up...!

Autumnchill · 25/06/2019 20:56

When we're going to get the call to say FIL and BIL have passed away.

£2k I transferred to a new bills account but cocked up account details and now it's stuck between FD and NatWest and the mortgage is going to go out the account before a reverse will get it back to FD account and I can do it properly.

Milkn0sugar · 25/06/2019 20:58

@Fairylea

If you're worried about blow ups and leaks, take all the plugs out except the fridge freezer and turn the water off at the mains. Also get a timer light if you're worried about being burgled. These things help me to overcome similar anxiety when we are away.

Chartreuser · 25/06/2019 21:05

I've been off with stress for three weeks and returning to work Thursday. Am v worried.

And DH hasn't been our for a night out out for years, has been wonderfully supportive of me and especially lovely with me ill. BUT he is going for a last minute big night out with his best friend miles away (across London and out the other side) tomorrow night, the night before I'm turning to work. I really sorry when he's out anyway, I can't settle until he's back but I need to be up at 5 am.

No idea what we are don't worry the DC's in the summer holiday. Asked to not bring DC1 neck to holiday club.

Spiralling into debt. Comfort eating. Two friends having chemo, not fm going well for either, had scans this week and expecting not good news.

Think I've pissed off the free friends I have as I just withdraw into myself when I get stressed so missed nights out. And don't explain myself v well

managedmis · 25/06/2019 21:07

New job : starting to think I should have stayed in the old one?

DS has his vaccinations tomorrow : do I tell him before hand? There's gonna be needles? Last time he had vaccinations he freaked out

igotdemons · 25/06/2019 21:07

I’m currently worried about my DCat 🙁 She’s got to go in to the Vet’s for some tests as she is an old girl and has lost weight ☹️ I have anxiety anyway but I’ve got to starve her the night before and I just know I won’t sleep because I’ll be worrying about her not having access to any food overnight (she is a grazer by nature). Then I’ll be worrying about what the tests will say... 😢

RickAstleyGaveMeUp · 25/06/2019 21:09

My husband doesn't like me

He hasn't liked me for a while, I don't think.

We have 2 DCs and a ton of debt. We can't afford a divorce.

I'm so miserable.

Fairylea · 25/06/2019 21:12

Will do @Milkn0sugar Flowers

I’m finding it therapeutic to read everyone’s worries. I’m sorry everyone is having a hard time... it’s somehow nice to read everyone’s inner thoughts, sometimes it’s quite lonely thinking it’s only you worrying about stuff!

yorkshireborn1988 · 25/06/2019 21:15

Worried how I am going to cope going to court for my divorce and children. It's been going on for months and I'm fed up of being anxious over it all the time

igotdemons · 25/06/2019 21:15

Sorry, meant to say, 💐 to everyone who is worrying about something - it’s so bloody hard.

Bananallama858 · 25/06/2019 21:17

Everything. I worry about everything Sad

PickAChew · 25/06/2019 21:18

This and that, but, more imminently, whether I can safely fart.

NationMcKinley · 25/06/2019 21:18

My sister has a post MRI appointment next week which I’m terrified about.

I’m so anxious about Brexit / next PM / climate change that I’m not sleeping. This is VERY unusual for me. I’m so so scared for my children’s future

I’m fed up with my job but absolutely no way out due to child care / needing the salary

Oh woe! Flowers&Cake for all of us

RickAstleyGaveMeUp · 25/06/2019 21:21

Brexit can FOAD. Seriously. If I do divorce I'll never get the house sold thanks to fucking Brexit.

twirlypoo · 25/06/2019 21:24

We all carry such a lot of burdens up there in our heads don’t we? Flowers for us all.

Mine are that I’m worried my car insurance is going to be cancelled as I have just bounced the payment for a second time. I have so little money, and I need so much. I’m a single parent and I don’t want to let Ds down.

My sister has learning difficulties and terminal cancer - she’s early 30’s but mental age of a child. Im worried about my mum because she is caring for her round the clock and struggling so much with it. I’m worried about her, because she’s in pain and scared. I’m worried about afterwards.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 25/06/2019 21:26

Brexit, another Indy ref, money (only dh is currently working), my dm who isn't coping with being widowed, both my 90 + year old grandmothers who are in failing health, ds's speech, waiting for my exam results.

ImTakingTheEssence · 25/06/2019 21:28

Bills, Money i don't feel like Im earning enough. I have enough to pay bills and nothing else.
Work, trusting people. Feeling like I'm going to be sacked even though I know I haven't done anything.
The constant training online courses and studying that I have two days to do and I've put it off.
My ex the constant texts all day everyday feeling like he's going to turn up at my house or he's watching me.
Picking the wrong men
My daughter if she's OK I feel like I'm feeding her full of crap not socialising her enough.
A weekend away that I've said yes too without thinking of the cost how I'll get there etc.
Being in pain Im just constantly aching.
My parents dying there seems to be a lot of people hitting there 30s around me and there parents are dying. It scares the life out of me as I don't spend enough time with mine.
My sisters drinking

WhiteLightTrainWreck · 25/06/2019 21:37

My worries feel very small in comparison to many here!
My ddog had an op to remove the top part of his femur due to an unchecked breakage that had caused issues in his hip joint (old injury from be for we got him but I caused agrivation which helped to discover it) the op was completed 3 months ago and he's only just started growing his fur back, but he's stopped using that leg suddenly when stood still and he has a luxated knee cap that needs to be manually put back in daily, so we will be back at the vet this week.
I'm due to have our first DC in the next 3 weeks, I'm worried about going into labour, I've read alot and I know what will happen, but I still fear the unknown.
Also worrying about the reality of being a mother, I'm 28 and starting to wonder is I'm mature enough... Logically I know I am, but it's still a worry.

ooohhhhcrap · 25/06/2019 21:45

How to get through the next three days till pay day Confused

Had the most expensive four months with four big family birthdays and two big coming of age birthdays,an imminent mot this month coming and starting to put back for school uniforms and another dc big birthday end of next month Shock

It never ends. Every month there's something big and no matter how much we prepare it only takes something in the house or a car to go wrong and we are back to the start again Hmm

Had a couple of months of parents and in laws being really difficult and forgetting boundries and last week I finally had enough and made it very clear how it's not acceptable to rock up and do what you want when you want when we aren't even home.
It's my home and I'm sick of feeling like I never know who's been here when I'm at work or who's going to be here when I get in (like the surprise Sunday visit again)

It's got too much now and I've put my foot down.

I'm worrying about my dc all the time regardless. Think my anxiety is quite high the last few weeks so am really trying to have time out but this week so far it isn't working due to one disaster after another Hmm