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Accused of giving children alcohol

18 replies

latealready · 25/06/2019 19:25

Dd (11) had some friends round Saturday evening for a party. It went well and I wasn't aware of any problems.

The mum of one of the girls who was here posted on facebook yesterday, not mentioning our names but saying how furious she is that parents would think it was okay to provide alcohol to children. Also that her dd is ill and having to miss school from drinking to much on saturday.
I don't have facebook, a friend sent me a screenshot asking if she was here at dd's party, which she was. There are 30+ replies saying how awful and irresponsible these parents are, telling her to contact the school/social services, also people have asked who but she hasn't replied.

We don't drink so there just isn't alcohol left lying around our house. There's a couple of unopened bottle's in the dining room we have been given as gifts and kept for guests, I've checked and they are still unopened. We absolutely did not provide her with alcohol.

We had 8 adults in our house, my 23 year old dd and her friend spent most of the time with the kids so it was well supervised. I don't see how anything could have snuck alcohol in and drank it without anyone noticing.

When she was driven home she didn't act like she had anything to drink, none of them did. I'm guessing her dd must have said we gave her alcohol though, no idea why she would say that. Its obviously a really serious accusation which is untrue.

What would you do now? try and contact the mum or the school and give my side to try and sort it out or just wait to see if someone comes to me?

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Myusernameismud · 25/06/2019 19:26

Hmm not sure what I'd do, but is it possible the girl is saying she's ill from drinking to get out of going to school? Children can be crafty...

Wildorchidz · 25/06/2019 19:26

I would call her and explain exactly as you have said it in your post.

HollowTalk · 25/06/2019 19:26

I would phone her and set her straight. Surely she would've called you if her daughter came home with a hangover?

Buyitinbamboo · 25/06/2019 19:29

I'd definitely call her and tell her what happened..be prepared for her to not believe you though

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 25/06/2019 19:30

Is she definitely talking about the dd that was at your house? No other siblings? Her dd didn't go on to another party?

If she has put it on Facebook I would text or ring her and say you have seen what she put and are sorry her dd was ill and then explain what you said in your op

WorraLiberty · 25/06/2019 19:30

I'd go to the mum and tell her in no uncertain terms, exactly what you've said in your OP.

Then ask her why on earth she thinks her child got drunk at your house.

purpleme12 · 25/06/2019 19:33

Just reply ' is the about the party at ours? Just cos there want any alcohol given at ours'

Neutral and factual so you don't get in any confrontation and she can take it up further then if she needs to

LoudBatPerson · 25/06/2019 19:33

Are you absolutely sure there are not any older siblings?

Seems very odd to believe that an 11 drunk to the point of being unwell on the Monday without the mother noticing straight away, without needing to ask the child why she was ill.

Pieceofpurplesky · 25/06/2019 19:34

Another one saying the same. Call her and tell her this. It only takes one of the followers
to contact school or SS and it becomes a nightmare

Doje · 25/06/2019 19:38

I'd be going round and talking (calmly!) to her. Going down the 'there must be some misunderstanding' route.

Something doesn't add up, what 11 year old gets a two day hangover! It wasn't until well into my 30s that hangovers lasted now than 24 hours!

InsertFunnyUsername · 25/06/2019 19:38

Yeah i wouldn't ignore this OP.

I would just say you have seen the facebook post and can assure her there was no alcohol given to any children, and there were multiple adults present who say the same.

Ginger1982 · 25/06/2019 19:39

What @purpleme12 said.

Soola · 25/06/2019 19:41

Have you spoken to your child me confirmed that the other child is likely to be making this up for attention/get off school?

AllFourOfThem · 25/06/2019 19:43

I’m another one saying that for her to be drunk enough to have a two day hangover, it would have been immediately obvious to everyone around. I also agree that when you are young it takes a lot to be hungover!

Not the point, but I would send a hungover DC of mine to school. It’s self inflicted and not an illness, plus a good way to encourage future responsible drinking.

ExplodingCarrots · 25/06/2019 19:54

If I was the parent my first port of call would be to call the parents and ask for an explanation and not go straight to Facebook. Something sounds off here.

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latealready · 25/06/2019 19:55

She mentioned the name of the girl in her post so definately talking about the same child. She left at 10 so I guess its possible she went to another party after just unlikely.

I'm worried that because she hasn't contacted me, which is the first thing I would do that she knows it probably isnt true and is only posting on facebook for attention/drama. I don't want it to get it spread around further and for people to believe its true if she was going to leave it at that.

I havent spoken to dd yet, I will when she gets home and then decide what to do.

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AdaShelby · 25/06/2019 19:57

I would check she means you first by calling her. Then I'd tell her she's wrong and explain why.

AdaShelby · 26/06/2019 16:40

How did you get on OP? Did you talk to her?

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