Has anyone ever had their child homeschool by someone else?!

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Clutching at straws here.

DS has ADHD and ODD, the latter of which is only really an issue when the ADHD isn't being well managed. He's year 7 mainstream school. Always loved primary, was happy to go in every day.

From Sept-March when he joined his new school, things deteriorated rapidly. He hated school and attendance got down to 93% as he just refused to go sometimes. Threatened to kill himself, was sullen and depressed. This seemed resolved from end April and he's been happier with improving attendance. I've just taken a new job which is an hour's commute away as I thought things had settled. But evidently not and the school refusal is starting again. I'm a single parent.

I wonder whether home schooling might be best for him but I cannot do this myself - I'm the breadwinner. Has anyone ever hired in homeschooling help? He's having counselling for anxiety as well. Just at a loss about what else to do. I feel like I've lost the new job before I've started it and I don't know how I'll support us both financially if the school refusal starts again 😭

My ds, who has aspergers, had to leave in year 7 due to bullying. He goes to Interhigh now and is loving it. He's doing his igcses with them when the time comes.

My children have been home educated (though never homeschooled) from birth, and I did this for a couple of months (during a particularly busy time at work for both DH and I) by hiring a tutor to come in for a few hours each day. It worked well.

That said, tutoring is not the same as childminding, and a child your DC's age will need an adult at home with them full time. Many home educators and homeschoolers work from home - might this be an option for you?

@ineedaknittedhat does your DS require a lot of supervision from you to ensure he gets everything done? Or is he quite self-motivated?

@agirlcalledBede I don't think I understand the difference between the two, so will look into this. I was thinking along the lines of tutors to come in daily, yes.

Wasn't this traditionally known as a governess?

Check out if there is home ed Facebook or other social media group in your local area. Talk to someone on there as they might be able to help or know of activity/workshops or the like locally. I used to know soemone who home educated her own child but also "child minded" another home educated child whose parent worked. Another child had an au pair who brought her to activities. So it is possible.

He is self motivated as we told him we'd send him back to a regular school if he ever slacked off. Dh is retired so around the house to keep an eye on him and I work nightshift so am around as well. We don't have to sit over him, but do check he's doing homework.

I home educate my 15 year old daughter, are you thinking of having tutors in all day every day? If not I think being a hour away whilst you work is too far for a Y7, also tutors may not be happy to come into the house if an adult is not present.

Or you can use Wolsey Hall tutors - they provide homeschooling online. I have decided to homeschool my son as well after relentless bullying to the point he said he just wanted to die. I am also a single parent who works. With then you can monitor what he is doing during the day. I start officially with them in September to coincide with when he should be starting Year 10. Good luck with it, you have made the right choice for your child's mental health and well being.

Can your LEA help with this? Inclusion support, or something like EOTAS (education other than at school)? There used to be home tutors employed by LEAs to give a few hours a week for children who could not access school, but to what extent this still exists, I have no idea. The couple I knew were both qualified teachers, so not someone most of us could afford to employ all day every day. I agree with PPs, your problem would be "childcare" for those times the tutor wasn't there.

Most use online schools like Interhigh for this but a year 7 will need a trusted adult at home to provide company and boundaries unless you can work from home.