How to deal with tantrums?

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Hi

Sorry sounds like a really stupid question but I'm a ftm to a 1 and a half year old who is a really
Good girl most of the time but has recently learned to tantrum!!!

At home I leave her on the floor and tell her sternly but not shouty that she mustn't have done xyz because it's dangerous etc. I then walk away and pay no more attention to it. She calms down relatively quickly and carries on as normal.

But what do you do in public? I can't leave her on the floor in the middle of a shop? Luckily it hasn't happened outdoors yet except once in an empty park so I just continued as if we were at home.

Any ideas? Sorry if this sounds stupid but I really have no clue 😂

Ignoring it is best. Walk slightly away so she thinks you might go. I used to ask my niece in a bored time ‘are you done now? What performance madam!’ Although dying inside l.

Don't engage with her, turn your back and let her get on with it.

I was v impressed with a mum I saw in Tesco, years ago. Her toddler threw a massive tantrum, was lying on the floor screaming and bawling.
The mum lay beside him and started going “Waaaaaah!” as well.

The toddler stared in amazement and then burst out laughing. They both got up and continued happily shopping!
I never had the nerve to try it myself. Thankfully, mine only did it extremely rarely, and because they didn’t want to come home from the park or beach or wherever. It was a simple matter to firmly bundle them into the car or buggy and set off back.

We just try to distract here! Try to move them onto something else 'Oh look at that cat' etc. I feel you though, my 2.5 yo has ramped this up a notch recently.

You can walk away. Tell her you're going. Normally they freak out and follow you!

Distraction works up to a point, but only up to a point. I used to take a book out with me. If one of them started having a public tantrum, I'd sit down/stand still and start reading. That tended to work, as they quite quickly got bored.

I used to be mortified if ds had a tantrum in public. It was mostly due to his lack of speech making him frustrated so he'd just scream and hit and kick if I tried to pick him up. I now just make sure he can't hurt himself on anything and let him do it until he's finished. Most people will give you a sympathetic nod and others will just ignore it all. Thankfully, as his speech has come on, the tantrums and there severity have lessened.