Help me get over this

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It is such a mundane and boring problem.

Myself and DP are doing our wills, the basic is we have fuck all to leave money wise,

What "we" do have is the engagement ring DP gave me, which was his mothers and a ring I have which was my grandmothers.

Here is the problem, DP thinks engagement ring should be passed down to DS, my point of view is its mine.

Other problem is my grandmothers ring, I don't want to give (will) it away, its mine, but by the time it comes down to it, I will be dead and probably not give a shit.

We will sort the engagement ring out somehow, but my real problem is my grandmother's ring, my logical mind says I am going to be dead I am not going to give a shit. But it is making me really uncomfortable being seperated from it, I cant explain it

Can't it stipulate that after YOU'RE gone both rings go to your son?

I'm confused. Your DP thinks if he does you should give your engagement ring to your ds?

Or he's saying he's leaving it in his will when you pass your engagement ring goes to your ds?

*dies 🙄

Can't it stipulate that after YOU'RE gone both rings go to your son?

Slight fuck up there, the engagement ring would go to his eldest (not my son)

My grandmother's ring would go to my son,

Oh - do you want the engagement ring to go to your son as well? I can't see the problem with that, they both belong to you.

Presumably there are items which he has which he might want to go to his son completely aside of joint property

Presumably your DH has other things he can pass down to DS1, the engagement ring is yours - he gave it to you when you agrees to marry him.

Why can't the engagement ring go to your husband's son so it stays within his family, and your grandmother's ring go to your son for the same reason? How does that not make sense? You'll be dead when they are handed down, I assure you you won't be bothered.

If you don't want it to go to anyone else, just say you want to me cremated/buried with the ring.
Or am I missing the point?

He could give his wedding ring to his son. I’m going to give my late husbands ring (which I wear) to my son when he gets married. I haven’t thought about my engagement ring but it’s not really that special (well it is to me obviously).