Anyone spend entire weekends alone and often?

[RosesandCuddles]

Like no real friends (as generally just acquaintances from work), parents in another city and nothing exciting happening romantically (a date here or there from online which seems like it goes well but then somehow fizzles out)

Specifically interested if you're in your 20's or early 30's.

I try and make the most of it by cycling, reading the news, trying new recipes, trying new beauty products, new ways to do my hair but sometimes feels a bit like what's the point... :(

I do; my kids go to their dads for weekends and I don't have much of a social circle. I enjoy going on walks/hikes. I go early, and am usually home by around lunchtime, but it feels like a productive use of time. Even if I don't move off the sofa for the rest of the weekend I can appease myself that I got some fresh air

I read quite a bit and spend an inordinate amount of time scrolling through mobile apps

Is there any Facebook groups where you could put a similar post such as this on, and see if any ladies in your locale have a similar story? Perhaps you could make some friends that way. I would be open to meeting friends in that kind of way.

Perhaps you could contact your local RSPCA and ask if they need any volunteers for dog walkers/cage cleaners etc. Could get you chatting to some new people and also breaks the day up/ doing a good deed can be a rewarding feeling.

I was exactly the same until earlier this year. I thought I was happy spending most weekends on my own but I have met someone now and our social lives are very full. I am much happier but I do crave the odd weekend with no plans. I use to spend my time in coffee shops and reading.

But what is the point of ‘meet ups’ that are entirely random? They may use up some time but surely they’d unlikely to lead to lasting friendships?

I've made some good friends through meetup. Sometimes it's simply refreshing to meet new people even if you never see them again.

I did it in my early 20's - weeks were manic though lots of overtime and I was aiming to see now DH but then boyfriend at weekends though that usually averaged out one every one or two months due to finances and work.

DH seem to fair better he was in London and had no issue exploring by himself at weekends, then he was back where he grew up with family and friends’ round and then he had succession of work places with people like him – young and wanting to go out and about and in a city with things to do.

I found it better when I started the OU - it meant I was heading to the shops and spending too much plus there were often tutorials at weekends.

I’ve been much happier since I moved in with DH even after children have come along and we are always busy.

If I ever end up in that position again I'd probably think about a getting dog and prioritise having a private garden to go sit and be in in good weather and very probably find a rambling group to join.

Minnie when you say I am much happier but I do crave the odd weekend with no plans you do know that you don't have to spend every weekend with your new boyfriend?

I'm stuck with my dc's at weekends. They're not quite old enough to be left alone yet. They only pay attention to me when they want food or there's been a fight. I do get very depressed and climb the walls.

I try and get us out for activities or museums as much as I can afford. At least it reminds me there's a real world out there.

Yes me

ShatnersWig I don't actually spend every weekend with him!! I meant that my social life has also been very busy this year! Lots of my friends have re-located so it would have always have happened.

I think lots of people feel like you op in the twenties before they've settled down. Lots of people move away from family for work, then if they're single and their friends are coupled up, it can be quite lonely.

Keep going with the dating and when you're married with kids, you'll be wishing for a moment to yourself!

Not sure if you're interested in ideas but Park Run is a good place to meet people. A 5km Run and lots of friendly people to chat to before and after. They need volunteers so you could always help out and meet people that way too. It's at 9am on a Sat, and there may be one near you!

+1 for park run, I don't do it myself (hate running) but was going to suggest it as I know loads of friends who have become regulars and grown good friendships from it

MeetUp if there is anything near you, but also similarly, Couchsurfing - I joined a couple of years ago when a bunch of my uni friends all left and I suddenly had no social life. I joined it for the social side in my city only, and have made many good friends (and a bunch of acquaintances). I still go on random trips etc with a lot of them. You could also host travellers which is fun. Or go and travel yourself and stay with someone, even just in the UK.

Also clubs, whatever you're interested in. Personally I joined a sports club and a few years later have good friends from that too. I joined a few teams on different days of the week and many of the girls I didn't have much in common with or they weren't interested in social side, but some friendships did stick.

Some PPs have said that they started dating, personally I wouldn't advise that in itself to pass the time, it's not a substitute for friendships!

Do some volunteering, it's important to contribute and to stay active and connected. Take a risk by doing something new and, for you,a scary challenge. Life isn't meant to be safe and boring, it really isn't. You need to shake things up a bit or life will slip by before you know it.