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How much time do you spend on your own?

15 replies

ThinThighsPlease · 22/06/2019 09:24

According to an online test I am 87% introverted. It's probably true. I spend probably 80% of my non working time by myself and 20% with much loved family and friends. Things people tend to enjoy with others - shopping, going for breakfast, long walks and holidays for example - I am most comfortable going by myself. I very rarely phone someone for a long conversation other than my best friend or my lover. I can't be in the company of people for longer than a few hours, I hate big events. I would NEVER go on a hen do abroad.

I wonder if I'm a bit weird to be honest, not that it really bothers me.

How much time do you spend on your own?

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user87382294757 · 22/06/2019 09:56

Quite a lot more so now the DC are in school. I need a break like you, e.g. if a family event in the evening prefer time off in the day. I chase out after a while and feel it looks rude, unless I do this!

user87382294757 · 22/06/2019 09:56

phase out I meant

WalkAwaySugarbear · 22/06/2019 09:57

Not enough IMO.

Asta19 · 22/06/2019 09:59

A huge amount! I’ve been wfh for over a year now so I don’t see people at work. I don’t have a partner. My DD recently moved back in after a break up so I see her for maybe an hour a day. I’ll have a long chat with my DSis on the phone a couple of times a month (we live miles apart), Skype my DS a couple of times a week, he lives abroad. And maybe go out with friends once a month. That’s the limit of my social interactions! And tbh that’s enough for me. I think I’ve always been quite introverted but it’s definitely increasing the older I get. I think it’s fine for people to spend a lot of time alone if they’re happy to do so. The problem comes when someone who would like more interaction but can’t get it. That’s when loneliness and depression set it. The issue I find is people then assume that “everyone” who isn’t a social butterfly must be depressed and that’s not true at all.

Ellabella989 · 22/06/2019 10:00

I work on my own and also love being alone in my spare time regularly too. I live with my partner and love being with him but I need my space. Can only handle seeing friends and family in small doses as find it exhausting.

Danceswithlightning · 22/06/2019 10:03

None! I'm an introvert but work in a school and have no one to have my own children so never have any time to myself. I also never get to go out which is equally depressing.

BitchQueen90 · 22/06/2019 10:59

I'm an extrovert. I love going to parties, going on nights out, going out for meals and being around people.

But I am also a single mum so I'm alone most weekday nights after DS has gone to bed. I constantly talk to friends online and text in the evenings though. I don't mind being alone when DS is in the house but when he is with his dad I always make plans with friends.

DDIJ · 22/06/2019 11:02

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LeoTimmyandVi · 22/06/2019 12:29

I am hugely introverted and absolutely adore lots of time on my own. I am a single mum to two young teens who see their dad every other weekend.

I am sure I should be out ‘enjoying’ myself on those weekends, but pottering at home in the peace and quiet allows me to recharge my batteries and face the week.

I have been single for 11 years now, and think sometimes about trying to find a partner. But then think I would find it hard to tolerate someone being around too much. So I do nothing about that at all!

Overall, I am very happy with it just being me (and my cats) but wonder if that will change when the children move out! I think probably not!

missbattenburg · 22/06/2019 12:46

How much time do I spend alone?

Nowhere near enough. I used to live alone and spend 80% if my non working time alone. And loved it.

Family have moved in with me and in most ways it's been lovely. Except I haven't actually been alone in the house a single night since they did. Something that is really starting to grate.

I desperately miss my time to myself Sad

Bumper1969 · 22/06/2019 12:52

I live alone, holiday alone, love eating out, walking alone etc. I do like doing things with friends too but not always. I hate talking on the phone and small talk. I teach full time so love silent evenings. Just been on holidays and had two weeks without a conversation. Bliss!

Pipandmum · 22/06/2019 12:56

I love being alone. I have an extrovert son (15) who would spend most of his time with others if possible, and an introvert daughter (14). My son is away with his girlfriend now so it’s me and my daughter and we’re both happy in our own space. But I like the fact she’s around and we’ll go for a walk later and tonight we are going thru a box set. I’d be happy if she lived with me til she got married! My son however would drive me mad as he always wants his mates around or is making noise and generally taking up too much of my energy. He’s just like my late husband though as an adult his gregariousness was a bit tamed with maturity.

Pipandmum · 22/06/2019 12:59

But to answer your actual question I’d say about 70%. I do make sure I get out meet friends for coffee etc most days as otherwise the only other adult I’d talk to might be the Tesco checkout person.

Fairfunny · 22/06/2019 13:11

None at all, and as an introvert, I desperately miss it. Same as @Danceswithlightning I also work in a school. I drop my own DC to their schools then drive straight to work. Then from work to pick up my DC. Work itself is incredibly busy. You can't go anywhere in the school to get peace and quiet during my lunch break unless I sit in my car in the carpark Blush

Literally get no time alone. My mental health really has taken a bashing as a result.

BentNeckLady · 22/06/2019 13:12

Not enough. I’m happiest on my own but get hardly any time to myself which has a huge impact on my mental health.

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