Help me get through today *TW miscarriage*

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I'm currently sitting in my office trying desperately not to cry - I'm miscarrying a very much-wanted baby after my 6 round of IVF. Obviously I'd be better off at home to bleed and weep in peace, but I can't be, because I have to spend today and tomorrow interviewing candidates for a really important role, and my place on the panel can't be deputised, they'd have to cancel the interviews.

If you've had to get through something like this, can you share any helpful coping strategies to keep my head in the game and off my shit personal life? Any and all suggestions welcome!

So sorry OP - other than a near fatal ectopic and a miscarriage at 12 weeks I chose to keep working during my other 3 mc - the routine and keeping my brain occupied also helped as well as being around people

I think you'll find that just having to get in to the detail of your interviews will help and without you realising it you won't think about it for the next couple of hours. I won't lie - when you get home later on when your own the feelings will come crashing back like a tsunami but for now head down plenty of coffee or something that you wouldn't have drank/ate if things hadn't gone wrong, get in and get done and then home with a hot water bottle and chocolate x

I'm so sorry OP. Life can be so shit sometimes, and so bloody cruel.

Do your colleagues know what's going on? Do you have everything there that you need to cope with the physical side of things like painkillers and pads?

I know that you said you need to be at work, but if it gets too much then don't be afraid to reschedule the interviews.

If you feel like you can plough on through with the interviews, can you arrange for a few days off afterwards? Knowing that you have time off immediately after may help you cope better while you're there.

Thanks folks. I have chocolate and coffee, but I actually feel too sick to eat. Plenty of pain meds/pads etc.

I hope you're right @itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted it's not fair on the candidates if I'm a mess! I'll immerse myself in pre-interview prep for now. Thank you

I am so sad for you - it must feel awful - what a dreadful day for you.

But I do agree that getting stuck into these interviews is probably the best - though hard - way forward and I wish you "bon courage" in doing this.

I also hope that the future holds better things for you.