Misbehaving toddler

[Sharkymum16]

So my son has been having some real problems at nursery. He's being kept back with the younger ones instead of being placed with those his age as 'he can't cope'. He cries whenever I pick him up and just wants me to carry him everywhere and I have found out today that he was stopped from interacting with any children and I was told he was hitting a lot. Both this time and the last time this occurred I noticed quite big scratch marks on his neck that he didn't go in with and I wasn't told about. Today he spent 20 minutes crying at home telling me he was a naughty boy and couldn't play with his friends because he'll hurt them. He also keeps being sent home with a full lunch box because they keep taking it away. I'm moving him to a new nursery in September but I don't know what else to do. Any advice?

Move him now.

How old is he?

Oh my gosh that sounds heartbreaking to have your child that upset, I couldn't send him back in and would be trying to get a new nursery ASAP, so quite an emotive response but I haven't been in this situation.
So is he getting the scratches from the other children when he was "being a naughty boy" ?
Who keeps taking his lunchbox ?
Sounds very sad situation, is he misbehaving at home ?

My son has been hitting and biting a lot lately as he has a new sibling. His nursery have implemented a star chart to emphasize his good behaviour and been very understanding. I agree with pp move him asap.

Are you in the UK? I'm pretty sure for taking the food away alone you have a good enough reason to make a complaint.

Have you taken pictures of the scratches?

Well toddlers do often go through a hitting stage so they should be used to that.
Why on earth is his lunch box being taken away?

My DS was exactly like this. I moved him from nursery to a childminder and he changed completely. He is a lot more happier. So maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable where he is now and needs to go somewhere else?

I agree this nursery does not sound suitable and he should be removed as soon as possible. Does he have behaviour issues at home? If you don't have concerns about his behaviour, then I would be concerned about hehow is being cared for at nursery. If his behaviour can be an issue at times at home, nursery should be able to be managing it better. I would be removing him but if he has to remain until he can access a new nursery, I would be asking the manager for a plan of how they intend to be addressing what is happening. You are not responsible for how he behaves when in their care. Often nurseries try to put the responsibility on a parent to sort it. He sounds very upset and obviously not happy there so you know things have to change

He also keeps being sent home with a full lunch box because they keep taking it away

Seriously? He's being deprived of food, has unexplained injuries, is labelled as naughty and denied other children's company,and is inconsolable when you pick him up.

If this is true then you need to realise that it's your responsibility as a parent to look out for your child,first and foremost. He wouldn't be going back if he were mine. A formal complaint about the lunch box, scratches and emotional harm would be the next step.

Get him out of there now. Your poor DS being denied food, physically injured, labelled naughty, not allowed to play with other children and being that upset when you collect him. I’d also consider reporting the nursery as it sounds horrific- could they explain the scratches on him?