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DD11 sharing bed with her dad

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KurriKawari · 18/06/2019 15:43

I need someone advice please.
DD aged 11 stays with her dad some weekends. He lives in a three bed house that has a double bed he sleeps in and a double bed in guest room. We divorced when she was 2, she's always shared a bed with him when she stays over. I've not brought it up because he's such a difficult person.
When she turned 11 and I noticed that her body was changing, she is more self aware etc. I texted him and explained this to him, said she should sleep in own bed, to make it nice experience, take her shopping for bedding, empty out a drawer for her toiletries, give her some space of her own. He agreed with this. He has youth work experience so really should get it.
However, he still hasn't done any of this and they still share a bed. I don't know how long he intends to do this for. He's so stubborn and I don't have energy to engage with him anymore/his drama, what can I do? I can't articulate why it's wrong but it just is. When we were younger I had to share bed with my sister because we were so poor and living in a teeny tiny house. I can't even imagine sharing a bed with my dad at that age!!

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gamerchick · 18/06/2019 15:45

Has the bairn said anything about wanting to stop?

Tbh there is a natural part of growing up where bairns who have hit puberty naturally want their own private space. It's when it's refused when the child wants it it becomes the problem I think.

Maybe have a chat with the bairn and see how she feels?

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