What gave teenage you a kick up the arse

[Girlintheframe]

Living with 18 year old adult teen is HARD!
Thought I'd sailed through the teenage years but it hit him at 16. He is now 18 and living with him frustrates and angers me so much.
It's the usual things, room an absolute tip, himself grubby, only focused on now and not the future (so no thought to long term prospects and happy working with a zero hours contract).

I do have rules. Room has to be 'cleaned' once a week. He does his own laundry (well he doesn't but I won't do it), I give him very little financial help.
What worked for you when you were a teen to get you motivated and moving forward? Right now he just seems so stuck!

Erm it wasn’t until I was 21 and my nan having a severe stroke and my grand dads utter devastation. I moved in and helped in recovery for both and it straightened me out too.

Ps I left home at 17 and led a pretty wild life - infact dont remember much tbh

Getting pregnant

He needs to move out

Leaving home.

I moved out at 16 but getting pregnant soon made me shape up!

In my experience this is quite normal. 18 is still young and it can be quite overwhelming to suddenly get to 18 and have to grow up. Yes I know a lot of 18 year olds have it together but a lot don't. It doesn't mean he's doomed to be a p
Lay about forever. I had one if these and a few years later-

• own place with gf, steady job, studying, travelling when possible. I find it hard to believe the change but they DO change.

He's got a job. That's something to be celebrated. I've seen posts on here with similar teens but they don't have jobs.

Has he started driving lessons? That helped as mine as they started saving for a car. With the car came independence and responsibility and ultimately a drive to get a better job and go back to studying.

Of course hygiene and house work are important and you're right not to let up on these things. It can feel like an endless cycle of nagging but its vital that you carry on.

I moved out at 17 as I wouldn't get onboard with my mums
endless rules. It wasn't until I seen how much things actually cost (I'm in my 30s and still begrudge the cost of toilet roll) that I realised that actually, she was funding a pretty decent lifestyle for me.

Not enough that I ever moved back in, but enough that a few years down the line, I could appreciate her for what she done, and see she wasn't just a massive spoilsport!

In most cases living at home after the age of 20 is detrimental, even if it can’t be helped. I think moving away from home is what helps individuals mature.

My relative is 21 and still lives at home having everything done for them (washing, cooking, bedroom cleaned, etc.) They have absolutely no idea how the real word works. Relative has a new partner and has decided they are going to try for baby soon despite both still living with parents! Oh and are simply going to purchase a house- with no deposit, savings or approval for mortgage.