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What is the protocol with disclosing at interviews that you're pregnant?

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namehs · 17/06/2019 20:42

I'm just over 12 weeks. Scan is in a couple of days. I'm showing a bit but you wouldn't be able to tell if you didn't know me and how slim I am usually.
Do I tell them at interview? Or wait a couple of weeks and then tell them (if I get the job)?

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Anotherdayanotherdollar · 17/06/2019 20:43

I wouldn't tell them.

Nicknacky · 17/06/2019 20:44

Don’t tell them until you legally have to.

Stompythedinosaur · 17/06/2019 20:46

After being turned down for a job and told "off the record" that they would have given me the job if I wasn't pregnant, I would say that you say nothing until after you have a contract.

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Twistedbiscuit · 17/06/2019 20:48

Don’t tell them.

They’re not allowed to discriminate against you on that basis so if you don’t tell them you’re protecting them as well as yourself.

LolaSmiles · 17/06/2019 20:49

Say nothing.

It places you and then in an awkward position.

They may find you totally unsuitable but feel trapped in case you claim pregnancy discrimination.
They may like you and then actively discriminate because of pregnancy.

Get the job on your merits or not if it's not right, wait until you have a contract and then inform them.

hopefulhalf · 17/06/2019 20:50

Say nothing, you don't have to by law and IME the law is there for a good reason.

Greenmarmalade · 17/06/2019 20:51

Say nothing and hide the bump! You're putting yourself at a massive disadvantage if you tell them.

Not relating to your op, but do you know you may not get maternity pay from the new job?

VodselForDinner · 17/06/2019 20:51

Say nothing.

I work in HR and would prefer not to know so there can be no accusations of discrimination. Best person gets the job and the less information about their family status, the better.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 17/06/2019 20:52

Not obliged to tell potential employers. Not obliged to tell current employers til 24/25 weeks.

RB68 · 17/06/2019 20:53

DO nothing SAY nothing and tell them when you HAVE to only. It is the only way - sorry

KindergartenKop · 17/06/2019 22:54

Say nothing. You're not obliged to.

starzig · 17/06/2019 23:03

Most would encourage you to just be selfish and shut up. However depends on your own conscience. Would you be happy if it was your business and you thought you were sorted then bang, the new start hops off on maternity. Would you be OK if you spent time training someone for them then to leave in a few months. But hey! you aren't legally obliged to.

LolaSmiles · 17/06/2019 23:08

starzig
Nice bit of being pro-maternity discrimination there.

Great to know that in 2019 some people still think it's acceptable to limit a woman's career opportunities and progression for having children.

VodselForDinner · 18/06/2019 18:37

Would you be happy if it was your business and you thought you were sorted then bang, the new start hops off on maternity

I’d be happy that I hired the right person.

Absolutely, it can be inconvenient when someone goes off on maternity leave. It can be inconvenient when an employee needs time off sick, or has to fly halfway around the world to tend to a family emergency, or wants to share parental leave with their wife, or wins a small lottery jackpot and wants 6 months off to pursue their dream of snorkeling around Trinidad and Tobago.

Life happens. In most jobs, you deal with humans. Humans get sick, they get pregnant, they need time off for family, or bereavements, or just for themselves.

Closing your hiring practices to 51% of the population halves your talent pool.

TinselTimes · 18/06/2019 18:38

Don’t tell them! Good grief why would you? You’re so so much more likely to get the job if they don’t know.

carlywurly · 18/06/2019 18:42

What if you're hiring for maternity leave cover and the interviewee is pregnant?

I absolutely know you can't and shouldn't discriminate but I feel so bloody sorry for small business owners in that position.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 18/06/2019 18:45

Maternity leave cover is usually a fixed term 12m contract (max). Not many women who can only work for 6 of those months would apply.

SwimmerGirl40 · 18/06/2019 18:49

I work in HR and I wouldn’t tell them. They could discriminate against you but obviously would come up with another excuse for not giving you the job. It could also put them in a position where they felt obliged to give you the job in order to avoid a discrimination claim.

Keep quiet until you start and only tell them when you have to.

NailsNeedDoing · 18/06/2019 19:18

Big national or multi national company, I wouldn't tell. They have the staff and the finances to deal with it.

Someone's small business or a charity, my conscience wouldn't let me be dishonest as it would likely be a genuine problem for them.

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