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Control and judgement of facial expressions?

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EL8888 · 17/06/2019 16:25

How much should people control and also be judged by their facial expressions? Reason l ask is earlier today a woman clearly took exception to my facial expression and in an irritable way demanded to know "why are you pulling that face?”. I then gave her a full and frank account of how l felt and why which she didn't like either! I have enough about me to realise people don't always want to hear my thoughts and opinions so often keep stuff to myself. Surely l am entitled to have my own thoughts and not have to try to keep them from being reflected in my facial expression. Or do l need to adapt a blank / neutral expression whenever l leave the house?! Surely it's too close to the realms of thought police? Her parting shot was her informing me l am rude! She could tell l wasn't thrilled so why bother asking me?!

For the curious it was a museum guide at a museum. We couldn't take any bags in (even very small ones) or water bottles. They was even some irritation around me taking my purse and carrying it in my hand. Nothing was being locked in lockers so items weren't secure and didn’t want money / cards going missing. She also insisted we had to follow a certain route around it -later on find out we didn't need to do this and it added no value at all! I now have a dehydration headache after 32 heat and no water for hours. Despite the rip off drinks we bought in the cafe

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Merril · 17/06/2019 16:42

I'm not sure because I have resting bitch face (or bitch resting face, whatever) so I always look like I'm in a mood.

I think she was quite rude in that circumstance, even though a lot of places like that won't let you take bags in. I can see your point about them not being secure. And a lot of guides in museums (especially stately homes) are weird anyway (I know that's a generalisation).

She shouldn't have asked why you're pulling a face because you're not a toddler. Not very good customer service.

LemonTreeLemon · 17/06/2019 18:16

I also have resting bitch face to I try really hard to look pleasant in certain scenarios (eg when at Work or DDs school) by adopting a small uplift of my mouth - a very very slight smile.

However, from what you've described, in that situation I would've made no effort with my face and my expression would've said it all.

It sounds like extremely bad customer service and to then challenge you was very rude!!

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