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4 cans of beer/cider a night....

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Sootienco · 17/06/2019 00:37

Every night.

Maybe more at weekends.

A problem?

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Runkle · 17/06/2019 00:48

drinkaware.co.uk

Pipandmum · 17/06/2019 00:51

A can of beer has 2-3 units. So times 4 that’s 8-12 a night. Times 7 that’s at least 56 units a week. The recommended limit is 14.

Sootienco · 17/06/2019 00:52

Yeah I just worked that out. Shit. :(

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JingsMahBucket · 17/06/2019 00:52

Yes, it’s a problem.

justbeniceplease · 17/06/2019 01:12

What if there is no alcohol one night? The response would indicate a problem

Sootienco · 17/06/2019 08:46

He buys 4 cans a day. If there was none in he would walk to the shop which is like 2 mins away.

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BrylcreamBeret · 17/06/2019 08:49

As someone whose alcoholic mother just died, I can safely say that's how she started. Take the situation seriously but look after yourself too.

Sootienco · 17/06/2019 08:54

Sorry for your loss.
It's not me though. I don't drink at all.

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fdgdfgdfgdfg · 17/06/2019 12:05

@OP, you could be talking about me, and yes its a problem. I've cut down massively at the moment because I'm on a diet and that works, but as soon as my weights down I'll likely be back onto 4 cans 5 / 6 nights a week. I don't feel like I'm a fully blown alcoholic, but I do have a habit that is very unhealthy.

For me its only really started since having kids, prior to that I'd go to the pub and have a couple a couple of times a week. But now I'll go and get 4 cans from the corner shop, because, well, they come in handy 4 packs, and then I'll drink all of them because if theres a solitary can left in the fridge, I'll want to get it some friends the next day..... And then I go and buy 4 more the next day anyway.

As my childs got older its getting easier to go out and do things in the evenings at the moment, rather than sitting watching TV with a beer, which helps, so I'm going out and doing exercise in the evenings, doing housework later, trying to change my habits that way. And mostly its working, but I have doubts about being able to stick to it long term, and this worries me.

Cryinganddyeing · 17/06/2019 17:01

It's a lot. :(

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Sootienco · 17/06/2019 17:15

How do I bring it up without sounding accusatory?

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justbeniceplease · 17/06/2019 17:21

I don't think you can sadly. Because denial will kick right in.

My DB was like this and he would never admit he had a problem. I think he did admit it to himself eventually because he managed to quit drinking altogether for his diabetes.

I suspect diabetes was his excuse rather than his reason.

Is there any way he would take part in a challenge of some sort! Health? Money saving? Beating someone else at going beer free? Because he may do it if he can without having to admit he is doing it iykwim?

feelthefearhaveabeer · 17/06/2019 17:59

Could he try alcohol free? Or lower alcohol versions ? I had an alcohol free beer the other day ( my FIL left it ) and it was really nice. I'm not sure on cider, but if it's taste he is after? I had a bit of a period of drinking too much and it was a habit. It was like a reward for getting through the day at a tough job. I broke the habit by changing to a different non alcoholic drink. I was a wine drinker.

feelthefearhaveabeer · 17/06/2019 18:00

Blushignore my username ha ha, I don't even drink anymore 😂 I just name change a lot and was out of ideas !

pointythings · 17/06/2019 18:09

It's too much, but he won't change until he recognises it.

I drank at roughly that slightly below level for a while. A really bad cold where I couldn't taste what I was drinking made me see that I was drinking out of habit, not because I actually enjoyed it.

So I did a dry month, with the intention of going teetotal if I found it hard. I didn't. I'm now comfortably under the limit, still go dry regularly, sleep much better and what I do drink I really enjoy - because I can now afford to but what I really like and drink very little of it.

Your OH can get this under control, but only if he wants to.

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