Do you have the same friends from primery school?

[Aveeno2017]

My daughter is in year 5 and has no real close friends! There are only 11 in her class and 7 of them are very clique. They are all into football and boys and drama..she likes Pokemon,Minecraft and Drawing! I worry about her not forming long lasting bonds..so would be interested to know how friendly you are with primery school friends.

Yes, my closest friends are my first school friends. Met in nursery and still close now at 30. I have few friends from uni

Thing is, I gave up trying to make friends quite early in life - ASD sort of does that and that was also because I never intended to remain in or near my hometown. So moving to University was that much easier without many attachments.

No. I live within 10 miles of where I grew up. Only one from secondary school & that's down to Christmas cards & odd text.

Bullied very badly at both primary and secondary so no. Terrified of DS starting "big school" only made friends at work they bloody lovely though. Understand your pain OP X

Yes I have 4 close friends I met at Primary School, then we all went to Secondary School together then some us of to college. We are still friends now and our children all play together

Not from primary or secondary. Great friends from Uni, and from college where I did my 2nd degree. Fantastic group from church. But only one regular friend from schooldays.

No. I haven't any of them since the day I left.

I am in touch with two friends from primary.

I have one life long friend since year 7, who is probably my closest friend, about 5 others also from secondary but we all went to the same uni, and I flatted with two of them.

I still have five good friends from uni.

However I have lived abroad for 15 years so I still make the effort to keep in touch via Skype, social media etc but we probably not as close as we use to be.

No, I moved house when in juniors and hated my new school - couldn't wait to leave it. No way would I be friends with any of those people again!

I'm late 50s and have one friend from primary school and one from secondary school (two, if you count the primary friend). I last saw them when we met up at the end of April. My other longest standing friend is someone I met on holiday aged 15. We see them twice a year.

Still in touch with quite a few from university, though haven't seen any of them for a while except that I met up with one for lunch last month when she came down south for a few days (I'm in Surrey and she's in Scotland).

I've just retired and am looking forward to seeing more of old friends this year.

Yes, I have a friend from nursery, we met when we were 4 & we are now 61, I also have two good friends from primary school. To be honest they probably are my ‘closest’ friends although we don’t meet up that frequently, 4-5 times a year as we are not particularly geographically close.

My mother (86) is still friends with someone she met at school .
,

No. I think people who retain schoolfriends well into adulthood are those who don’t venture very far, geographically or psychologically.

No, and I only have one from secondary. Most of my friends I only met in the past 10 years.

Yes I'm still friends with lots of people I went to Primary school with,a couple of them I've known since Nursery and I'm 44 now.

I'm still friends with lots of people I went to secondary school,some of them came to my Mothers funeral and then 3 years later my Fathers funeral and they were of a great comfort to me.

Me and my BF and our families are all going away together in the summer holidays to celebrate our anniversary(40 years of being best friends)but I do know that I'm very lucky when it comes to lots of my friendships.

But try not to worry OP they are so young right now and they are all growing up with lots of social media around them,give it a few years and fingers crossed lots of the girls that have been horrible will grow up and change and behave more kindly towards your DD and they'll be able to reach out to one another online.

yes, theres 8 of us in my school friend group. 3 from primary and 4 from secondary.

we're pretty close and try to all meet up once a month. see each other seperately outside this too.

my best friend of 28 yrs is from primary school.

we're all 35 this year :-)

No. I don't have one friend from primary school and I went to a different secondary school to the majority. Have friends from secondary school still, and from university.
I wouldn't worry about this there is a much larger pool at secondary.

Primary none at all, I’ve been reunited with several from secondary via Facebook and the close friends have become close again, some from uni stayed close, but the friends I see every week are mum friends.

No. We moved half way across the country when I was 10. So only a couple of years in new primary school. Made some friends and kept through to 4th year when my parents split up and I moved with my mum and my siblings to my mums home country. I never kept in touch with anyone from school. It was so hard at the time but I made 2 great friends in the village we moved to and still friends with them 30 odd years later.

I saw 3 women from my primary school 2 years ago, first time I’d seen 2 of them since the 80s. My friends are from my 20s, 30s & 40s.

Yes
We don't live in the same places anymore but 4 of us who have been friends since playgroup are still thick as thieves and see each other several times a year. They are like my sisters and their children are like cousins to mine.

Nah. I have a few on facebook from primary and we have had a catch up in the past but they aren’t friends. Also none from secondary either (only on facebook). A good few from University though! I lived with my best friends after Uni and we still meet up as regularly as we can.

Yes, I still have a few friends from primary. My best friend I met in secondary school. We are all late 40s now.

Cileen that is very much a generalisation, I have moved a long way geographically from my primary school friends (including spells abroad on both sides) but we have retained our good friendship, I haven’t lived ‘near them (ie; in the same town) since we left school.

No. I think people who retain schoolfriends well into adulthood are those who don’t venture very far, geographically or psychologically.

That might be true in some cases but it's equally likely that they are people who had strong friendships from an early age and those friendships withstood being separated by geography. My 'best friend' from the age of four lives hundreds of miles from me and we still see each other regularly and still have loads in common, even forty years later. Our husbands get on well, our children get on well. We just have a strong bond.

No. I had a very close friend in primary, but she left after a couple of years. I then went to a different junior school, and then a different senior to any of my friends from there. I'm only really in touch with one friend from senior school, and one from university.