Happy Father'd Day to all the Mum's and Grandparents who step up to the mark when the biological fathers can't be arsed.

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Just that really.
Not everyone has a good dad.
Some of us have really shit ones that don't even deserve to be fathers.
So thank you to all the mums and grandparents who have the balls to be dads too.

Sorry, my typos in that heading were shocking!

Thank you very much.

Thanks. Is a shit dad better than no dad? My DC's dad has not bothered to contact them for 6 weeks now and I'm wondering if they would be better off without him. They are thankfully oblivious to it today (or maybe they just hide things well) but I'm so cross with him.

I've been slumping further and further into a self-pitying hole all day

My friend sent me a lovely text earlier about me doing both parenting roles so effortlessly which was very kind but not particularly accurate and made me realise I've been selfishly wallowing in my own self-pity about how my own father is a twat and not made any effort today with ds (who also has a twat for a dad).

I keep shutting fb down because of all the FD posts on there.

Every thread I open on here relating to FD is about people whose father's have died and then I feel horribly guilty for feeling sorry for myself when there are so many people who would love more than anything to have their father's with them.

Urgh, think it'll be a very early night for me and hope I wake up feeling less of a bitch.

Cathay123 I honestly believe an absent father is better than a shit one. With a shit one you get disappointed and let down every time they decide to walk out of your life again and again. You get reminded of the abandonment over and over and they truly have no idea how it affects you. That's my experience anyway. I'm 37 years old and I should know better by now. I should know what a twat he is. I always send my dad a card every birthday, Christmas and Father's Day, And always message to say "Happy whatever's day" to him. I don't phone him because he makes no conversation with me, one word answers, no engagement, so I text along with a card. I sent a card to him the other day but I'm not bothering to text this time. The only reason I send cards is because I'm a better person than him. But I wish I could just let go of it.

Clutterfree I complete understand how you feel. There's loads of "you only have one father" posts. But if they've had a good dad they've no idea how it feels to be disappointed constantly by someone who is supposed to always be there for you. Some of us have twats for fathers that we just can't let go of. Instead we let them make us feel this way when they're not even anywhere near us.

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