If Father's Day is hard for you come here and vent and hide from all the social media bollocks

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My dad is dead. I am NC with my mother.
I try and make today a nice day for DH and the kids are older now and will make a fuss of him
I just want to hide a bit today

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Ahh sorry you are feeling bad. My dad is dead too, DM is remarried but I won't hear from her today as they'll be doing things with his kids.

DH is in a mood as we've been up with DS a lot last night- now he is refusing to nap so our afternoon plans are out of the window. And it's raining 😩

My ex has not contacted DC for 6 weeks now. Thought he might have died but looked on facebook and he is out with friends.

Dh died a few years ago, and my dad died in April. Fathers Day advertising, emails, and shop displays are fucking everywhere.
My sons and I are just pretending not to see.

My lovely has died this morning. Typical of him, he was always quite dismissive of Father’s Day and never liked a fuss. About to go and be with my mum leaving my DH, who I was intending to spoil as he has a cold, in charge. Social media is hard for people on days like this. I had recently whittled mine down to just Facebook at least.

DH died in February and DS and DSS are devastated. It's the first time since I met DH that I haven't had to organise cards and gifts from the boys and me, and we'r were together for 20 years. DSS is going out with his friends to play golf today, DS intends to spend the day in his bedroom. I want to hide away too but DS has basically forced me into visiting my dad because "you never know when it will be the last time" - very cheery.

My dad is dead. FIL too. Just went on Facebook and saw my lovely late uncle on my cousins page

Lovely Ddad, that should say.

Emma sending you love and prayers. So sorry to everyone for their loss.

Emmapeeler sending you an unMNetty (hug). My DDad also died on Father’s Day some years back so it’s double hard (although the date changes so

I keep telling myself it doesn't matter it's just a made up day but I think it just brings into sharp focus how dysfunctional my family has been
Trying to focus on my family and how history won't be repeated

Sorry posted too soon.

The date of FDay changes so some years you get a double whammy.

My DCs dad (XH) has just left the country for work - he can’t come back for several months so we all had a very tearful goodbye yesterday. Today has been quite subdued, made us all a nice brekky and now avoiding going out so we don’t have to see all the other families celebrating.

DP (of 7 years) is spending the day with his DCs and do invite us along, but mine weren’t keen - DD felt like he was trying to step into her dads place, although I explained that he was just being kind.

Love to everyone who’s struggling today and especially to the kids dealing with a day without their dad for whatever reason.

This is my first father's Day without my father too. He was the hardest man ever to choose a present for and it felt strange not to be wracking my brains as to whether I should buy him some socks.

But yeah, it's hard isn't it?

Thank you both.

theshoelady I am sorry it happened to you too, but glad the date changes, I hadn’t thought of that. Thinking of all of you whose Dads or DHs are no longer here.

Lost my lovely Dad in January, miss him so much

for everyone finding today hard

Dad died in April. I'd been his 24/7 carer for the past 2 years (and part time for 4 years before that). Since then I've dealt with all the registering the death stuff, the funeral, moving back home to my DH in another country, my best friend coming to visit, I turned 60 - and I've been fine. Today, I'm in bits, missing Dad so much. FaceBook is just a series of triggers. I'm going out with the dogs and trying not to think about it. Sympathy to all going through something similar. Tomorrow is another day.

Oh Emma - I am so sorry. What awful timing. Thinking of you, and of everyone else who's finding it hard today.

My dad died six months ago. I was very close to him and my DS adored him, so today's not easy. In a shop yesterday, we found a little something with his name on it and I turned round to see DS standing on tiptoe holding it up in the air - 'trying to give it to him' :(

Raising a glass to my lovely DF, ten years this year and still miss him everyday

Father’s Day bollocks is EVERYwhere

My father was/is an abusive arsehole, physically, mentally and emotionally. My mother is his flying monkey who backs him every step of the way and denies that anything like that ever happened.

I'm NC with both of them now.

Father's day is shit because it's like he's dead, but worse. He's still alive, just not in my life because he couldn't care less about me.

FIL (who was a complete and utter gentleman, totally different from my father) passed away last year. This is the first father's day that DH has had without him, but as usual MIL (who is a fucking bitch from hell) has made today all about her and how hard it is to not have him around today, even though he was her husband and not her father, but she's an attention seeking narcissistic drama queen and this was just a good excuse to make today all about her.

DH and I have had a row over her now and I'm sick of the whole bloody lot of them.

Sorry, I know I've gone a bit ranty here.