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To be fucked off about boot sale pressure?

18 replies

Cruelstepmother · 15/06/2019 21:40

My stepson keeps asking politely if I will take him to a boot sale so he can sell his clutter and get money cos he is skint.

I've already said I don't feel like doing it. My deeply-loved sister is dying, and has about 2 weeks left, if that. I'm not by her side and can't be, and I couldn't save her if I were. No one else drives that he knows well enough to ask.

But then he asked if I could just drop him and pick him up (no) and now he keeps 'just sorting things out in case' and just finding the details and putting them where I can see.

I lost it and told him I don't want to do a bloody boot sale because my bloody sister's dying!!!!

AIBU?

OP posts:
moreismore · 15/06/2019 21:44

I would say that right now, even if you are being unreasonable, it’s totally OK. Flowers

Singletomingle · 15/06/2019 21:46

Of course YANBU at the moment. However as you say he is being polite and is actual showing initiative in trying to earn his own money. He has even tried to compromise by asking you just to drop him off and pick him up. It seems like rather than losing it with him it would be better to sit down an calmly explain the situation and how you feel but that as soon as you are able you will happily help with his endeavour.

Hellywelly10 · 15/06/2019 21:47

Tell him to sell his old crap online. Yanbu unreasonable at all op. Spend as much time as you can with your sisterFlowers

bigchris · 15/06/2019 21:48

I'm sorry for what you are going through

How old is he ? Don't take it out on him, where is his dad, have you got a grandparent who could help him ?

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Cruelstepmother · 15/06/2019 21:59

He's an adult, but can't drive. All family 150 miles away and they don't drive either. I suggested online but tbh it's not that kind of stuff, more cheap bits.

OP posts:
Helpmedecide123 · 15/06/2019 22:10

Can't his dad do it?

PepsiLola · 15/06/2019 22:13

Your stepson is being inconsiderate.

I am sorry for what you're going through right now Thanks

Cherrysoup · 15/06/2019 22:17

He’s being a pain in the arse to ask repeatedly. Can’t he ask a mate who does drive, given he’s an adult?

fecketyfeck21 · 15/06/2019 22:18

cheap bits sell on ebay, i've been doing it for several years and made a healthy sum. Flowers for you and dsis.

KneelJustKneel · 15/06/2019 22:22

Can his dad do it?

Hanab · 15/06/2019 22:22

Ask his dad to get a taxi to take him 🤷🏻‍♀️ Surely they know the stress you are going through

Bookworm4 · 15/06/2019 22:24

I’m going against the grain here and saying give the guy a lift, you say you aren’t by your sisters bedside so maybe a morning helping him out will be a breather for you. I think you’re being a bit harsh.

carla1983 · 15/06/2019 22:35

No, YANBU.

carla1983 · 15/06/2019 22:35

Sorry for what you are having to deal with right now OP :(

Whatsnewpussyhat · 15/06/2019 22:38

He's an adult?! I thought you were going to say he was 12.

Yanbu

WhoWants2Know · 15/06/2019 22:50

Tell him to pitch a yard sale instead.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 15/06/2019 22:58

YANBU given the circumstances.

If he doesn't drive then he has to wait until it is convenient for you to drop him off & pick him up. Does he have a friend who has stuff to sell too, could they do it together and he gets a lift with his friend?

babysharkah · 15/06/2019 23:13

Why can't his dad do it?

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