I'll try and be brief, but there is a lot of background.
Dd1 has a friend who shes known since secondary school and both are now 21. This gir, i'll call her Alice,l is lovely but has had a bit of a shit life. She was adopted as a young child (school age) but doesn't have a good relationship with her adoptive mom. Her birth parents died a few years ago (drug abuse).
So, Alice now has 4 children, aged roughly 3, 2 and 1 year old twins. She lives in a house owned by the father of her children. House was left to him when his mum died. He is a complete waste of space and has been since they got together aged 13ish. He plays no part at all in parenting the kids, stays out for days on end etc etc, drinks, smokes weed, you get the picture.
Alice is a brilliant mum, her kids are happy, well fed, clothed etc but their home life is chaotic due to the parents relationship.
Alice wants to leave and get her own place with her children and start again. She has applied for council housing but there is a back log to even assess the forms never mind be housed. Obviously she can't chuck her other half out as it's his house.
Currently she isn't coping well at all. She is looking after the kids but not herself, and is very paranoid that people are judging her and that she is going to lose her kids. She doesn't want any SS help as she has bad memories of them from when she was taken from her own parents.
I have suggested Home Start but she said someone was meant to come out to her when she had her twins and no one ever did.
I've suggested she goes to to see her G.P but again she is reluctant.
I'm struggling to know what else to suggest but would really like to be able to help her. She is a lovely girl and a great mom, she just needs some help.