Moved my child school now feel guilty - anyone moved their child school how long to settle?

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Moved dd last term she is year 1.
She was ok at old school but class was huge -33. School ‘outstanding’ but not inspected in years results dropping and quickly. No head in place for 18 months. Dd frequently said she couldn’t concentrate as too noisy in classroom.
Anyway after lots of discussion me and dh decided to move her. Got her into another school a couple of villages away. Much better results and much smaller class sizes 22 from 33.
She has made some lovely friends we are doing lots of play dates and trying to settle her in but she’s teary often. She told me this week she wants to go back to old school as the work in this class is too hard. At old school she was one of the top students but here the pace is a lot faster and she’s struggling to catch up. Teacher not concerned she said dd will get quicker eventually.
Does this sound normal? I feel guilty for moving her as she was happy socially where she was.

I think you did the right thing ....

I feel guilty for disrupting her. I I feel guilty and stupid that we saw the ‘outstanding’ label and thought that would be the best school without researching more 🤦🏻‍♀️

It can take a little time, but it sounds like a move for the best. I moved DD2 and it was the best thing I ever did. I just wish I had done it sooner. She thrived in the smaller class size (22 combined P6/7) and she soon picked up the new routines.

How old was your dd little when you moved and how long until she settled?

Meant to add my friend moved her dc schools and said one settled within the first month but the other took nearly a year to settle.

The smaller class probably means the curriculum is moving faster hence the work is harder

That makes sense seems like they are covering much more - dd needs to get used to the new pace hopefully that might help her settle more?

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The fact she's complaining means she's being pushed more = you made the right decision!

I think you need to talk to her about resilience and the positives of being challenged academically. Even in y1 they can understand this.

Thank you Kop she’s definitely being pushed more even outside of school homework much more is expected.

Moved mine for the start of year 1 - she took to the school setting very well (the previous school was crap), but socially it probably took her a good term or so to start to settle down and she was still a little bit on the edge of things for a lot of the year. Now parents do a double-take when I mention she didn't do Reception in the school as she's fitted in so well they've forgotten she was a late-comer!

I have another in year 1 this year and this point in the year they're ALL struggling a bit - the terms have fallen around here to make this last half term so much longer than it often is and they're trying to get them up to speed ready to move into year 2 and they're all blooming knackered.

Good point pantsy think they are all ready for a break now teachers included. I’m hoping if we do lots of play dates over the summer then dd will be properly settled before Xmas.
This school is very strict compared to the old one so think that will take some getting used to.

I moved my child this year. For lots of reasons. He took two terms to settle properly and was given ELSA support. I felt awful but he is now doing well and I am looking forward to next year as I feel he will thrive. He is even being given ELSA next year to help with the transition to the new year and then hopefully he will be grand. It was a tough decision but hopefully the right one in the long term. Keep the friendship playdates up through the holidays.

We’ve had tears already this morning that she doesn’t want to go to school teachers are too strict! Drop off will be fun 😢

Hello I'm not female but need advice

Hello my daughter is 8yo and in year 4. Her school isn't brilliant she doesn't have loads of friends but she knows where she stands familiar with school ect clings to anyone just floats about they have had 3 head teachers and new teachers yearly. There's another school in our village way better everything and they offered her a space but I feel really guilty and I don't know why. She doesn't seem bothered about moving but I'm so guilted We have another child who starts next year also The other school has more money its less clicky with parents as its staggered drop offs where her current school all has groups bitchy groups together which I ignore and blank but it's still awkward everyone arrives the same time and leaves the same time.
The better sxhool is a chaolic primary school so religious so its encouraged but i don't think they punish them if they dont follow it and it seems to teach the kids respect where her current school is manic.
the latest head teacher is good and seems strict byt she also says all the same stuff all the other heads have said going to whip school into shape ect ect i think we're just familiar with the school and no where we stand.

Has anyone else moved schools how do you no if you should