Father's Day and bereavement

[rosepetal321]

This Sunday will be the second Father's Day since my father passed away - last year it was very soon after, and the funeral hadn't even happened yet, so it was all very raw and we didn't really do anything as were so busy with the final arrangements and as I say it was still very new. This year though it has crept up on me (I think I've kind of been ignoring the ads/displays in shops as it is a bit upsetting!), but now that it's almost here I kind of am feeling like there's something I should be doing for it, but I'm not really sure what.

Most of my friends still have both parents (and I know they'd be supportive if I opened up to them about it), but was wondering, for those of you who have lost a parent (or know what people in that situation do), how do you mark these days (ie Mothers/Father's Day), if at all? Do you do something to remember/celebrate them in some way or just let it come and go like a normal day? I just thought this may be a good place to ask, as maybe others may benefit from it too.

I will raise a glass to my dad and help my dc’s and dh celebrate his father day.

I don’t think it ever really goes away, just remember the great times and funny stories you have of him.

My father passed away 6 years ago now. His birthday also falls around Father's Day. For me, because of that, I usually raise a glass of something on his birthday and make Father's Day about my DH and the kids. Although he's not here this weekend.

It does get easier as time passes. This is the first year since he died that I don't feel a wreck in the lead up to the weekend and what would have been his birthday.

Go easy. Remember him how it suits you best. I think it's always good to make some time if you feel you need it.

My Dad hated Father's Day. I remember him every day anyway so I don't think of him particularly on Father's Day. only to remember how much he hated it.

It's my 2nd fathers day since losing mine too. Last year, he'd only been dead 3 months and I had a week old baby by the time it rolled around so I was a bit distracted. I think dc1 made a card at nursery for dh but they gave it him as he was at home on paternity leave.

I've got dh cards from the kids and we'll have dinner at home I think. I guess we'll talk about dad, my son loves looking at pictures of him because he really misses his Granddad. I think partly because I still haven't fully processed the fact that he's dead, it's hard. I keep thinking "oh need to tell dad that" and then it hits me I can't.