Baby shower gift etiquette??

[SummersB]

Never been to a baby shower before (Don’t particularly want to go to this one either but it’s for a good friend who had her heart set on it...)
So: do I bring a present? And if I do will I be expected to give ANOTHER present when the baby is actually born? Surely nobody expects two presents on the birth of their baby do they?

From baby showers I've been to I would give the present then. You dont need to give another when the baby is here. Or do it the other way round,

I think it’s expected to give a present at the shower (my friends wanted to throw me one, I was embarrassed that people would think I only invited them for gifts when actually I just wanted to see people so I requested no presents...everyone ignored this.) However you certainly shouldn’t feel obliged to give another present after baby is born - my very close friends and sister did which I was not expecting but the other friends who came just brought a card when they first met baby.

I remember starting a thread ages ago about whether I was being unreasonable to (slightly) resent buying a baby shower gift, then a gift when the baby was born, then a christening gift, and then usually very soon afterwards a first birthday gift - I got absolutely annihilated 😆

I think I was a bit frustrated at the time because lots of friends and family had babies all around the same time and it just seemed never-ending, coupled with the fact I was having failed cycles of IVF. I may have been a little bitter 😁

Token gift at a baby shower?

Proper gift when born.

Redpanda I’m so sorry to hear that, that must have been so hard!
Thanks everyone. The thing is as a present I have crochet an African flower pram blanket for her baby girl (before anyone wonders, I am not one for inflicting my DIY presents on anyone in general but I’m quite good at crocheting and my friend had heavily hinted that this is what she wanted!). It has taken many hours and the yarn cost quite a bit. So I don’t want to sound mean but I don’t really want to get another present on top of that. I will bring it to the shower and just get a card and maybe a bunch of flowers for the birth.

Gift for baby shower and then token gift for the Mum (shower oil or chocolates) when the baby arrives.