Is there such a thing as love at first sight ?

[Maryw287]

I've been single a while so joined a dating site just to try it, I know most people don't like that kind of thing, but I was intrigued. I went on a few dates some were not what they looked like in there profile pic catfished totally, but I've met this one man who is really cute, funny, great personality and we just hit it off and now I can't stop thinking of him he says he feels the same way, but I'm just a bit wary it'll all go wrong. I've only known him 2 weeks so don't want to rush things.

Not love, no, but lust.

I would say yes. I knew I loved my husband literally the moment I saw him. I didn't stop thinking about him for 3 months when I engineered a second meeting.

Been together since we were 21, now 41.

Drives me up the wall but I still
Love him!

So it's not unusual to feel like this or am I just thinking I'm 16 again lol.

I think some people just have that connection straight away I'm such a romantic.

But how can you love someone you don't know? Wouldn't it just be loving how they look?

Yeah I suppose your right Benwillbondspants

I think there can be a sort of deep fascination at first sight, which can lead to love.

I felt it with my current DP (male), and with my late DP (female). I first saw both of them in similar situations but different times and places - coincidentally they were both making speeches at events. With both, I felt absolutely drawn to them, before having actually met and spoken to them.

No. You can't love someone you don't know yet. You may be struck by their appearance, fancy them at sight, and fall hard for what you think they represent, or what they seem to suggest they are like, but you can't love what you don't know. For some people, obviously, what the person suggests to them turns out to be backed up by the reality, and it's mutual, and they tend as a result to be the ones who say 'I knew the moment I met him', but of course it's confirmation bias.

People forget the times they had a feeling of mysterious certainty on first meeting someone who turned out to be a boring bastard, or completely uninterested in them.

I guess some people believe in it and and some don't. It depends on your belief systems and the way you think human chemistry works - I believe there is a lot more to it than what science can explain.

I saw my future DH across a crowd and it was like I was in a movie, everything else went blurry and I could only see him. It was literally like that scene from Wayne's World.

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I knew immediately my dh was the one

I think what you are describing is clicking with someone. It doesn't have to be sexual. I have friends who I've clicked with straight away. I disagree that you can love someone at first sight.

I think if you think there's no
Love at first sight you just haven't experienced it.

Or you have critical thinking skills, and haven’t forgotten the time or times you thought you’d seen The One and the guy turned out to be dull/afflicted with BO/on his stag do.

I think I knew straight away that I would marry my husband.

What other people said. I saw my DH and I just felt really lightheaded, almost intoxicated by him. I couldn’t think about anything else. Definitely love (ok maybe lust) at first sight.

Having never really thought about boys before i instantly developed a MASSIVE crush on one the second i clapped eyes on him when 17. Very weird. Not love tho.

ExDH swears blind it was love at first sight when he met me...

I would always have said no - but from the very first time I saw DP I felt incredibly attracted to him and I wanted him. He almost smelt right if that makes sense? I had never and have never felt that way about anyone else. I didn’t just fancy him, I needed him.

@nightscented

That's interesting as I teach critical thinking skills so I like to think I have a basic grasp!

One of the skills I teach in critical thinking is understanding perspectives. Generally on subjective matters (of which love is one) a critical thinker would recognise that there probably is no right or wrong answer, just an amalgamation of an individuals life experiences which lead them to believe whether it exists or not -
Much the same as religion.

Therefore to negate another's subjective experience would be considered wrong. Not that your opinion is wrong.

Hence my assertion that if you haven't felt it, you're more likely to not believe it exists.

I knew my husband was the One the moment I met him. I didn't necessarily feel madly in love, it's hard to explain, just an instant thought of "Oh, it's you"
I was very young and married at the time so nothing happened. I didn't even consider doing anything. I just "knew" that eventually it's be him.
Years later we got together and have now been married 20 odd years.
I threaten to throttle him on a daily basis and we've been through some really terrible crap (death of child).
But we have this bond that I can't explain verbally. It's like an invisible bungee cord I felt it twang the day we met.

I met dp days after leaving exh.

Not in the slightest bit interested. He was stood in my friends kitchen (friend of her husband) and I was picking her up to go out.

I didnt even notice he was there until she mentioned him. Anyway, I said hi that was it. He was outside when we left, he made a joke and smiled. His smile literally stopped me in my tracks. I stood still for a few seconds, smiled and left.

But I put him out of my head. I didnt want to be with anyone. We had contact over a the next few months. I still didnt want to be with someone but we became good friends. We got together about a year later.

But getting together with him felt inevitable. I didnt want to rush getting together and in the back of my mine, I knew it was going to happen so, why Rush?

He said the same. He was disappointed that I didnt want to date him. But not that that bothered, because he knew it would happen. He just needed to give me time and space and just be a friend. But he knew it would happen.

I do love him now and I have always had feeling for him. But not sure its love at first sight. But when he smiled, it was like pp said 'oh, its you'. I knew from that moment it would be him.

Oh also forgot that me and dpbworkedbin the place when I was 17 and he was 19. I recall seeing him around but never spoke to him as we worked in different areas. Never got that feeling around him then.

He is definitely, the person I want to be with. But wasnt back then.

I met my husband at a gig played by mutual friends and he suggested a date about a week later. By the end of the date (Sunday lunch which turned into lunch, afternoon, dinner and pub until closing time), I had a pretty good idea that it would be serious. Within about a fortnight we'd effectively moved in together and we talked about marriage in the first month. Fourteen years later...