My DD is the only one of our DC that is unhappy and keeps making the same mistakes over and over. she cannot hold down a job - which is always the fault of the twats she works with. She repeatedly phones moaning about her boyfriend(s)' behaviour. But the bottom line is that she is using them, sponging off them to avoid working. And eventually they catch on and begin to question the endless excuses for not working. Her health issues are invented and her lies are so badly constructed that you would need to be an idiot not to see through them. On top of this she is a drama queen who manufactures arguments and then contradicts herself every few sentences. We have bailed her out financially several times - she owes all the family money but never repays even if she has the resources to do so. She goes in circles - endless complaints about her current partner followed by a split from him whereby either we or her siblings pitch up to move all her stuff out of his flat. Then after bad mouthing him for a few weeks she decides that it was as much her fault as his and goes back to him. All is quiet for a bit then the cycle continues. We have tried talking to her but to no avail - still hours on the phone every few weeks moaning about him/his family/why it is not her fault she can't hold down a job. It is infuriating. And boring. Any ideas on how to break the cycle?