Well not really... that would be weird but he just popped up as a suggestion on Instagram so curiosity got the best of me.
Ex dumped me about 10 years ago very unceremoniously whilst I was at work at my Saturday job as a cashier. In front of the whole store. At the time I was understandably mortified and distraught. He then proceeded to tell me all about his amazing new girlfriend etc. My self esteem was shot at the time, I quit my job shortly after and decided to go to university.
Fast forward 10 years and I have a degree and further post grad qualifications, have a great job, an amazing husband I met at uni, we have travelled and now have a lovely home, we have supported each other through bereavements and hard times and are now about to start TTC. It's been hard work but really rewarding.
Instagram tells me he still lives at home with his parents, in the same small town we are from, works in the same job at the same supermarket. Everything is the same he just looks 10 years older. I am sure he is happy, he is still with the same woman so it was obviously the right decision for him (however much of a dick he was about it at the time), but I can't help but feel grateful that he dumped me. I am so glad that I got out of our town, saw the world, got more of an education and found a man who helped build my self esteem and is a wonderful partner to go through life with. I think if ex hadn't have dumped me I'd be so frustrated and miserable right now.
Just to clarify I will definitely not be thanking him for dumping me, but it's given me a real moment of clarity for how life could have turned out and to be grateful for how it has turned out. I just wondered if anyone else has had a similar moment as such?