What's a 16mth age gap between siblings like

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Hi I've got 8mth old twins,and I'm 4weeks pregnant, not scared at all lol,has anyone been through the same 😀

We have 16 months between our eldest two. Its not bad. They are now 10 and 11. They share interests and friends and hobbies. Obv they also piss each other off at times but all siblings do!

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Hard work, but then you already have twins. Mine are 2 years apart and if I could rerun my life I would have a bigger gap because university is so expensive (mine are 18&20)

17 months between my dc and the first year nearly drove me around the bend. After that it got easier and now I'm glad they're close in age. They get on great most of the time and have a lovely relationship.

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Oh the fighting, and battle for dominance, but lovely at times.

Pluses and minuses to every gap!

I have that between biggest two then two years so had three under 3.5. It's all a blur looking back, although they are all two school years apart which helps.

I remember crying to DH week before DC2 was born that DC1 wasn't walking and how would I cope with 2 babies but then they started walking and it really helped.

I personally am very grateful to have got all the younger years over and done with, there was 24 years between my big brother and my little sister and that made holidays/days out impossible to please everyone (but meant I had loads of experience of babies by the time I had my own).

I feel a bit envious seeing people with bigger gaps than mine that seemed to enjoy each child's babyhood, for DH and I it was a case of survival and the city of childcare nearly bankrupted us, but I had to go back to work for own sanity.

Now kids are older (13,12,10) I love their age gap and realised I just didn't like the early years as much as I do now they're bigger.

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Yeah, I’m still in the blur of 4 in 5 yrs. they are all close together and definitely life is more controlled and enjoyable in the early years for parents with a 3+ yr age gap. But there are major benefits a little later down the line.

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Difficult, I think the first two years of my third child’s life are just a blur (I had three under three). I was on autopilot most of the time just going with the motions, found it near impossible to leave the house. It was enormously difficult but I’m glad now they’re all older and I can entertain them all in similar ways.

Exhausting and relentless to start with. Mine are now 6 and 5. Best friends (although love to wind each other up!) They share interests and hobbies and it's pretty good now I think

I’ve under three years between all mine. My oldest two are now almost 4 and 2.5 and they play really sweetly together. It a total joy watching them chasing each other round. The youngest one tries to join in sometimes and it’s so lovely (19m between 2nd two). It makes all the hard work worth while. They all really like soft play, the same petting farms, playgrounds. Water fights don’t get too wild as they are all still young etc so it’s not like we’ve got an older one getting annoyed with the younger one etc.

The other bonus is that yours should both still sleep during the day. It gives you time
to tidy up and do washing.

I’m also coming to the end the first year with three and I’ve left the house twice a day, almost every day for the whole year. It’s hard work but certainly possible if you want to. I can’t stand being at home as they tear the place to bits so try and keep them out at all costs. Where there’s a will there’s a way!

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Perfect in my opinion. My two were and are the best of friends. I won't like it was hard work for the first couple of years but it paid dividends later on, as they played together, were interested in the same things...wouldn't change it for the world.

Oh and like someone else said, they both napped together for 2 hours which was bliss in the afternoon. It took some effort to get them into that shared routine but worked well.

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19 months age gap here. Yes, it's hard work but for us it worked out so well. The DSs had similar interests and broadly speaking got on very well (although they knew how to push each other's buttons without a doubt!). They are adult now but very close - any problem and they go to their sibling first.

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At what week pregnant did you tell doctors or make a booking appointment with midwife anyone leave it longer than average

Do t know what average is but I usually let the GP know around 8-9 weeks to get the booking in for 12 week scan. Here the usually double up the scan with the booking in appointment so no need for early GP appointments at all.

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Ill have a 16ish month age gap. I've been told to expect it to be hard work but once they get a little older it's easier

I'd ring your dr to find out process with midwife but in my area they see you around 8-10 weeks for booking in because they need to get 12 week scan organised

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