Annoyed at babys father, would you be?

[Amy530x]

I have a 6 month old son and im a single parent. We have never been together. His father sees him at the weekend for a couple of hours during the day. We have a amicable relationship and get on for the most part. I dont respect the way he treated me and he is very selfish and is self centred but i keep it civil for my son. Anyway i couldnt get out the house the other night and i asked him around 8 o clock to go and get something else for our sons teething pain as he was really struggling with it. He said he would and he did bring it however he came in, sat down for 2 mins and then said i have to go to my cousins now to say hi its her birthday and just left without even asking if i was managing ok and he knows how hard its been with our son teething the last few weeks becuase i tell him on text and he just says hope he is better soon. I was managing fine as i always do but i would have just expected him as a father to at least offer to help me and stick around for a bit because teething babys can be hard work. In my opinion he came because he wanted to show off to everyone he knows that he did something for me but will fail to tell them he was out the door 2 mins later. he wasnt even at work the next day. Then he didn’t bother asking how our son was until the next night. Do you guys think I’m overreacting or would you be annoyed to?

@magicfarawaytrees, I disagree.

If the OP had arranged for a night out and the father didn't comply, then he would be an arsehole.
But that's not what has happened and neither is it the situation agreed by the parents (unless of course there's more to it).

The father has done as he was asked but he was expected to be a mind reader.

Yes I do agree in that he presumably needs it spelling out. But I think we should go easy on OP, having a 6 week old on your own plus carrying the upset towards the father must be very hard! A bit of kindness wouldn't go amiss.

I think you need to be clear with him because he can’t read your mind. Teething can be hard work but if he only sees your son for a couple of hours a week then he probably doesn’t get how hard it is to look after a baby for long periods,

6 month old. They have been dancing around this for half a year.

@DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou what have we been dancing around for half a year exactly?. As parents , him and i have been doing absolutely fine and there has been no issues. In that situation I have my view and he obviously had his and I asked other people’s opinions which I got and respect. Your entitled to yours but I really don’t think there’s any need to get nasty about it with the swearing etc above. And to clarify , he hadn’t a night out planned, he said he might as well pop in and see his cousin as it was her birthday since he was out the house anyway so he had to go. I appreciate him coming with the teething stuff but i think as a decent parent you’d do that anyway if needed and I didn’t need him to stick around but it would just have been nice if he thought to ask if I needed him to stick around for a bit since we are on friendly enough terms. But that still doesn’t change my opinion on him that he is selfish etc. He’s not obliged to but it would have been nice, and by me saying that doesn’t mean I want more from him parenting wise in general , it was just that particular situation. That’s all I will say