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Social services?

9 replies

Lovescience · 11/06/2019 01:19

Hi everyone , I’m new here first time ever using the site so bare with me ! I need some other perspectives on this situation so I can look at a full picture ! I currently live below a lady and two children but regularly hear her screaming shouting at them and I mean screaming at them they also have outbursts where one of them is screaming in distress and I mean screaming, crying begging for help banging and slamming things to get their mums attention and she doesn’t seem to respond until it’s gone for at least 10 mins by screaming herself at them/him. tonight was literally the last straw it upset me so much and he was literally begging for her to come he kept saying where is everybody? My husband popped his jeans on as we were thinking she had left them it’s midnight to go into the flats to knock on and ring police. So I probably didn’t do the best thing and screamed back (we have paper thin walls so we hear everything from everywhere) at her to go to him and help him or I was phoning the police ! It then went quiet. Me and my husband have reported the issue several times to the housing association as we’re worried and I would hope to believe she maybe just needs a hand from somebody or she may be struggling herself at the moment as I think she’s on her own and I don’t know her circumstances and I’m fully aware we all get a bit pfft at times but this happens weekly if not daily ? To point where my children say mum she’s off screaming again I’m glad you don’t scream like that. So I’m thinking of reporting to the local social services and to the housing trust again, I don’t know if there’s anywhere else that I could mention it too so they maybe could check if she needs help ? I’m worried for the 2 boys and her and I don’t want to make matters worst for her but I can’t sit back and not do something nor do I want to start getting angry with her ?

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Theworldcouldbemymollusc · 11/06/2019 01:24

Yes please report this. If there is a safer explanation such as children with special needs then that’s one thing but if those children are being abused/neglected they need help. You can report anonymously via the nspcc website if that’s easier or call your local mash team/Children’s safeguarding hub and tell them what you know.

Nikhedonia · 11/06/2019 01:33

I would absolutely report this.

If she needs help, then social services can offer this, if she needs intervention then again it's the right place.

Babyduck2 · 11/06/2019 10:00

Definitely report to SS. If she snapped one day and hurt them, you would forever feel guilty for not intervening.

SnuggyBuggy · 11/06/2019 10:02

I'd report, the family needs some help

NotSoThinLizzy · 11/06/2019 10:04

I would report. My DD has special needs and can have some tremendous meltdowns but I wouldnt be bothered if a neighbor was concerned. I would see it from their point of view.

Lovescience · 11/06/2019 10:46

Thanks guys for the feedback ! I’ve done what you have mentioned. I think I was hesitant over that fear of how I would feel if I got any letters etc and trying to apply logic to why it’s happening but thank for validating my choice ! Xx

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NotSoThinLizzy · 11/06/2019 11:27

Better to be safe than sorry really.

Happyspud · 11/06/2019 11:31

Do you have any rapport with her at all? She and the kids are not your responsibility but I would be offering a coffee and an ear to a neighbour I was worried was struggling. Her knowing that you know she’s doing a terrible job now might make it impossible to make that offer but I’d be trying that. And yes, if you think the children are being screamed at to the point that they are being damaged, then SS is a fair call to make.

Serin · 12/06/2019 19:07

I don't understand this fear of social services at all. She clearly isnt coping, she doesn't have to snap and beat them senseless (or worse) to be damaging their mental health.
I'm glad you have reported.

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