Is this normal...

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I’m 24 years old, living at home at the moment due to illness/job trouble. I pay some ‘rent’ to my parents, not as much as it would cost to live independently but I’m also not completely financially dependent on them.

I have a newish boyfriend and told my parents I would be staying with him over the weekend. My mum in particular is quite traditional in her views of sex and had a problem with me staying with him. Her argument is that as I’m living with them and dependent on them to some extent for the time being I should respect their views. However I’m 24, should I still be considering their opinion on how I choose to live my life?

I realise the best thing to do would be move out but - without being too outing - that’s not possible at the moment and isn’t likely to be until nearer the end of the year. As I don’t want to always feel bad about staying with my boyfriend as it upsets my parents what would be the best thing to do. I’m thinking of just keeping it simple, say I’m staying there and not get into a conversation about it... or would it better to consider their feelings for now and have a conversation about it again later on?

Thanks for any advice.

'i understand your views mum, but I don't share them. See you tomorrow.' and go out.

I think, as it's their house, it would not be unreasonable for them to refuse him staying at your, in your bed. But you're 24, not 14, so if you choose to stay at his, that's your choice. It's also reasonable to let them know, so they don't worry about where you are.

But, they may not agree with this, in which case... Good luck.

Thank you. I do respect their views about their house and wouldn’t ask for him to stay over there but I feel outside of that it’s my choice to stay at his house or not.

Thanks Bumbdebump I’ll keep saying something simple like that so it hopefully won’t turn into an argument until they come round to the idea.