Miscarrying home alone - Hand hold please

[Itsasadday]

Unsure why I'm writing this thread, feeling fed up and lonely right now.

Just home from Hospital where it was confirmed I'm in the early stages of first trimester Miscarriage (7Weeks).
Nothing they can do apart send me on my way with painkillers and a promise to rest for the Evening. Easier said then done when I've just collected DCs from School, have no family in the area and DH is abroad for Work. Friends didn't know I was pregnant and I really don't feel like telling them especially now.

Apologies for the Moan! 1 Year TTC so this feels pretty s*#t right now

I’m so sorry

Offering a handhold x

Hand hold here - easy tea for dc, beans on toast, takeaway or sandwiches- do consider telling a friend, a good one will swoop in with cuddles and practical help.

I'm sorry, that's shit for you. Been there myself.

OP I'm so sorry be kind to yourself tonight. If I was a close friend of yours I'd want to be there to support you, even if it's just over the phone. Hand hold here from me, I know we'll all be here in case you wanted to talk some more.

I’m so sorry op. Been in exactly the same position twice . I don’t want to frighten you, but it can be physically painful, so make sure you have plenty of pain killers and a hot water bottle. If you have a trusted friend it might be an idea to put them on alert, just in case you need help to take the kids to school, get shopping etc. I’d also advise not going far from home, I needed the bathroom for some hours on and off. It’s an awful thing to go through, particularly emotionally. Take care of yourself .

I I've been in this position too and the cramps were not too bad for me, with the help of co-codamol.
Is there anyone who you can phone , family or friends, to talk to for a bit? I appreciate you don't have any family in the area but a close family member might be able to travel to your home tonight or tomorrow to support you. But if they can't it still might help you to talk over the phone for a while and you might not feel so alone.
Have you told your DH?
Sending you a handhold too.

Thank you very much for the kind words, and again apologies for my miserable post!

I just need to make it through to DCs Bedtime then I can have a nice hot bath and a good cry.

Sorry to hear of those of you who have been through the same thing xx

Im sending you a bear hug and big kiss on your forehead. Im so so sorry for you. I can imagine how you feel as I was in a similar situation years ago. No words can help but Im here for you. Please do not hesitate to pm me if you need anything

Holding tight I've also had an early miscarriage (at 11 weeks, but stopped developing at 6 weeks). It was very "straightforward" but still very painful and distressing. If you have anyone you can confide in, I would do so. I freaked out on first or second night due to pain and bleeding lasted quite a few days as I remember. I am so sorry for your loss x

Oh love am very sorry.

Agree with pp to get a friend or family member on standby just in case. My own mmc at 9 weeks was rather painful and I was alone but could have used some help. Get your comfiest clothes on, dig out the duvet and pillows and hot water bottle and snuggle up on the sofa when the kids go to bed. Take some painkillers if you haven't already and keep taking regularly.

Oh, so very sorry. I've ben through the same, with a five-year-old at home and unable to contact DH who was out at his work Christmas do. Holding your hand tight. Make sure you use pain relief if you need it. Is there a friend who can take your kids if need be? I'd do it in a heartbeat for a close friend - I'd rather know and be able to help.

I’ve been there, and thinking of you now. Takeaway dinner, whatever junk you fancy, stick on a film for the kids in another room or ease any restrictions on technology and you can have a quiet night from now. Maybe a quick text to parents to get them to school tomorrow, or treat them to a taxi adventure?

Be aware that in some cases the bath can cause more bleeding - but it is very comfortable, so don’t worry. If you were my friend, I’d be there in an instant to give you a hug and take care of you, regardless if I knew before or not. We are all here for you on this forum too

So sorry OP, I've been there too. As PPs have said, dose up on painkillers, comfy clothes, junk food and rest as much as you can. Mine lasted several days too. Do try to confide in someone so you have some RL support too

I'm the same (but don't have DC to look after). Starting bleeding at midday. luckily I hadn't gone into work today. Best advice is to take the pain killers every 4 hours (or whatever the pack says) to manage to pain. This is my 2nd and it's totally shit. So sorry you're going through this.

Oh op hugs to you Have you managed to speak to your DH? Miscarriage can be a very isolating and lonely experience. Be kind to yourself ♥️

I'm sorry you're in this position mine at a similar stage was very painful, almost like labour pains but it was over in a couple of hours once I had passed the "products" of conception. I felt very emotional beforehand that was the first sign for me that things weren't right. Please tell a friend x

So Sorry OP, you should ring a trusted friend though. Ask yourself if it was a friend would you want them to ring you in this situation? So make that call and have someone to talk to, even if its on the end of a phone. xx

Be kind to yourself and don't try and do too much except be. Very sad times. Can someone else take DC into school tomorrow? Big hugs

I'm sorry OP, I've been there 💐

@LillyLeaf for you too

@Itsasadday how are you getting on x

So sorry OP 💐

So sorry OP it’s fucking awful isn’t it? Hope you’ve been able to get comfy and the kids are in bed. It’s horrible you don’t have your DH with you please be good to yourself

How are you?