Gutted over a house, tell me I'm being silly!

[EnglishRose1320]

Currently putting our house on the market in the hope of moving to a house that suits our family needs more. Spotted and viewed a house the other day that couldn't have been more perfect. Tried to think with my head, knew it would probably sell before we were ready. Last night we made the decision to go on the market today and take slightly less due to not being completely finished so we could put an offer on the house we found. This morning it has gone under offer and as much as I tried not to fall in love with it, I'm totally gutted. It's the only house that has suited our families complex needs to come up in the local area in the last 12/18 months. I'm kicking myself that I wasn't more proactive in getting on the market.
However we do have a house, we can look again and I know I am lucky to be able to buy a house in the first place so please help me stop being so ridiculous. I'm sat mopping instead of getting on with things.

Just look at it as it wasn't meant to be.

DH and I had similar years ago, I fell in love, offer accepted and we were gazumped.
I was so upset for a while after, but we did find the right place a few months later and eventually came to realise that the first house wouldn't have really suited us anyway.

The right house will appear.

Statistically how often to house sales fall through?

Thanks MadSweeney, I really hope you're right. Getting the house market ready is proving an absolute nightmare and part of me is tempted to give up but this house really doesn't work for us anymore.

Exactly the same thing happened to us. I was, and am, gutted. I have to drive past the house on the way to work every day which doesn't help.

BUT I do love my house. The other one was perfect for us as the DCs grow older, but it just wasn't meant to be I suppose.

No idea, but I assume a lot.
The trick is to try and distance yourself until exchange. Bloody hard not to be mentally decorating but you have to distract.

Our current home we had to wait over 12 months for it to come on the market and there had been no guarantee the owners were going to sell. I spent a year trying very hard not to get over invested and another 3 months constantly on edge until we signed. Stressful stuff house buying.

Probably more often than you think. We 'sold' three times before it finally completed. First person changed her mind, second couldn't get a mortgage.

Keep an eye on the first house and make sure the agent knows you are interested. If you do accept an offer for yours, you are still allowed to make an offer on the house that is under offer, as until contracts exchange and a chain is in place, nothing is certain.

Might feel shitty pushing someone else out, but in the world of house buying (assuming you are in England or Wales) it isn't a matter or first come first served. If you can offer higher and exchange first, you can buy that house even if someone else wants it.

We went on the market for a specific house, which sold before we could get there. We did let the agents know how interested we were (and put our property on with them) and they called us immediately when the original sale fell through. It can happen and, even if not, you'll be in a better position if something else comes along.

I couldn't cope with waiting another 12 months. I dread getting through a day atm. I think I might need to look into how to make this house work because the market is so dead atm.

Barbara- I did wonder if we could manage a cash offer whether they would be interested but also feel bad that someone else obviously wants it.

I've messaged the agent today and stated how interested we are and asked they they let us know if it comes back on the market.

To be fair we were in a different position. We weren't selling our existing house so waiting for this one didn't affect any sale etc.

You'll get there, you'll look back and laugh one day