Court Order - visitation, child does not want to see my ex

[Whitey125]

Looking for some advice/information. I will be brief:
Got an Ex-Husband (lives abroad in a non-hague convention country). He comes to the UK once a year for 2 weeks. He doesn’t provide nothing to my son and the Judge is ok with that and yet still gave him visitation rights. I have full custody/residency etc. My question is about the court order. When the court order was issued when my son was 7 years old and couldn’t speak for himself. Now my son is 10 and gets very upset (crying on occasion) headaches etc every weekend when using Skype. because he just doesn’t want to talk to he’s dad, there is no bond there and I said to him, I am here for you, you decide whatever you want to do. My son said he doesn’t want to see or talk to he’s dad. What is the age a child can question the court order and say no I’m not doing it. Want to see another Judge as the one I have seen, is always on my ex’s side, the judge is scared of him. I’m getting worried because now my ex is talking about going over to visit him and he’s family etc.

I don't know if/when a child can refuse visitation. I do know that there might be ramifications for Residential Parent if you permit a refusal by child.

My take is:

• have a proper child with your child About why they don't want a visit. *if appropriate in case for both parents, tell them you both love them *Explain why courts rule as they do and why visitation is important in keeping connection with both parts of their family *If all else fails, see if ex would shorten the individual daily visitations so your child warms up to the idea of seeing him.

I seriously doubt a judge is scared of your ex! Unless he is head of the Mafia . My ds went nc with xh at 12. Exh didn't argue.
At ten unfortunately it's your responsibility to encourage your ds to see his df. Can you tell ds when he gets to be a teen he can decide but that you could get into trouble if he doesn't keep to the order.

In my experience the court would argue that it would be more damaging to the child to have no contact with their father. They will argue that if your child didn't want to go to school you would make him, and that it is the same with visiting or talking to their other parent. They will listen to your cold at 10 years old, but are unlikely to agree to zero contact.

Thank you all very kindly for getting back to me. As much as I hate the violent $%&%$. I'm always polite, and will always be there and support my son. roll on when hes 18. Lol.