Young mums, how do you feel now your kids have grown up!

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I had DS aged 19 and he’s 16 now. He’s my only child and i’ve Just turned 36 so i’ll be 38 when I have a grown up child. I go between feeling, oh well at least I can go on holiday whenever I want, to feeling sad that whilst my mates are going through the exciting baby stage i’ve Been there and done that. I feel a bit like the kid that spent all their money in the first 5 minutes at the fair and now has to watch everyone have
Fun. DS is my ex-husband’s child and it’s not like I could even have another baby because i’m On strong epilepsy drugs, with uncontrolled seizures and DH has had the snip.

Is it just me or do other young mums feel the same?

Omg I have been thinking about this these days. I had my first at 21 and now I'm 30 and both of my kids are getting easier etc but then I look back and miss the whole pregnancy thing so much and feel like it was all a blur having a newborn and I wish I could savour those moments again as I didn't know it was gonna be my last time when I had my second but then I think of having another and how it'd be good but just the whole sleepless nights thing, I just miss the excitement of pregnancy etc but like how it's getting easier but then also don't know what to do with myself as much I feel like I went thro7gh the baby stage so long ago! It's like have another baby or try and get financially back on track, I don't think I will have another baby but I can't believe it's all over and I was so young. Sorry babble

I had my eldest (17) at the age of 20 and my second (4) at age 33.
I love it. Although my friends all had their children in between me having mine so my boys are either much older or much younger which is a shame.

And yet on another thread young Mums (me as was ) are being classed as poor uneducated with nothing in life to strive for.
Yes this is Mn for Parents by Parents

Feeling a lot more positive now. Seems like I’ve got a lot to look forward to. We’ve actually been talking about going to Florida in 2021 but can’t afford to take the kids (DH has 2 that don’t live with us) Might have to pretend we’ve been to Spain 😂😂

Honestly, I love it. I had 2 by 21, then stopped. They’re now nearly 30 and I have really enjoyed my time since they became adults. I travel a lot. My money is all mine! I can do what I want when I want. I have a great relationship with them both and I can enjoy their company without being “responsible” for anything. That’s not to say they don’t still ask my advice sometimes but they are in charge of their own lives now.

I had mine at 21 and he's 36 now.
I would not have the energy to have any more young children now.
I suffered with a chronic condition from my 40's so my DS had my best most energetic years, had I had him later we would not have had any fun as I was too ill to cope with a young child then.
I'm so glad he had my best years.

I feel great about it. Mine are 23 and 20 and I love it that I’ve done the difficult bit and got them started out in life, and now I can help them from afar with guidance and advice but giving them plenty of space to just be, which in return gives me plenty of space to just be as well.

I have never suffered with empty nest syndrome and I don’t suppose I ever will, even after they move further away - motherhood is one aspect of my identity but it’s not the only thing I am and I’ve never felt that my children were the only meaningful part of my existence.

Just remind yourself that everyone goes through these feelings whatever age they had their children. It’s normal to be sad that you’re letting go of their childhood, it’s worse for you because your friends are having babies but they’ll go through it too (probably when you’ve got grandchildren and then they’ll be envious of your situation).