Not sure which topic to post in.
FYI Daily mail is shit!
I've recently been thinking about some things they do / have done in the past and I'm questioning if it's a bit weird and not the norm in terms of functional relationships.
I might be completely in the wrong and misreading things but as I get older, have my own family and so on I find myself very different from them in a lot of ways.
Worth noting they were both fairly young parents and are now in their early 50s as I'm in my early 30s.
Also I am not biased but it is known that my DM is a very attractive lady and has always been good looking and got a fair bit of attention.
I have a few examples and was wondering if some wise mumsnetters could give me their opinions..
- I remember when I was younger and they went on nights out I would often be told about how my DF got into a fight or DM had to tell him off/calm him down as another man was paying her attention/trying to dance with her. It was often in a very light hearted laughing at their antics kind of way and always with DM saying how she was just minding her own business and just got approached.
- when I was old enough (not sure if this is a bit weird) I ended up on a few nights out with them and other people and I saw my DM dancing on her own and whilst dancing kind of "travelling" a lot all over the place often bumping into men or walking backwards into the middle of groups of men whilst still dancing and ignoring them, even if there was tonnes of space around her and not many people dancing she would manage to do this. Then if one of them would start dancing with her she'd let him whilst shooting me or her friends these half outraged "shocked" looks of "why is he dancing with me". The next day the story would be of how she was just minding her own business/just having fun dancing/ didn't even notice anyone else.
- in the first months of mine and DPs relationship (been together nearly 10 years now) a labourer doing a one off job in my family home asked for my number and I told my DM a bit surprised because that's literally never happened to me before and she encouraged me to give it to him even though I was in a relationship with DP who she knew I really, really liked even way before we got together. She said "why not". I didn't do as it didn't seem right since he was obviously interested in a romantic way and I was happily taken.
- DP and my parents worked in the same industry and sometimes saw each other on projects or events. My DM would tell me that she saw he was talking to a good looking girl or he fancied someone even if to me if seemed like a normal polite conversation, maybe with a joke thrown in and so on as you do when socialising with people?
- being told in an argument "you think your DP doesn't look at others? Of course he does?" "You think he wouldn't have his head turned? You're naive". (Potentially relevant background : DF cheated on my DM many years ago and they both decided to work through it)
- at one point both DM and DF thought DP fancied my DM ... I'll just leave that there.
- my DF generally being under the impression most men fancy my DM.
- my DM often getting moody if my DF talks to another female for a while and always getting the impression he fancies them. DF also gets weirdly jealous the other way around.
I'll leave it at that as I feel this is getting really long.
Am I reading too much into these things recently or is this a really weird way to function?