Where can we go? Toddler with diarrhoea due to see dad

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My 1 year old is due to have her monthly contact with her dad (who travels to be here) today and tomorrow. Sessions are about 2 and a half hours long.

Plan was to go to gallery playroom today and soft play tomorrow.

But overnight she has had diarrhoea so obviously can't go and pass it on to other children (well and happy in herself).

I'm drawing a blank on where they could go! Can't be at my flat (he isn't to know where we live) or really anywhere non-public because of safeguarding, and it's raining outside....

Any ideas?!

Could it have been diarrhoea due to teething?

I would be informing whoever supervises the contact that he cannot go today due to illness.

Don wellies and raincoats and go for a puddle stomp in a park somewhere? To be honest I’d probably be cancelling in these circumstances, just because she’s happy right now doesn’t mean she will be in several hours and could be being sick, having tummy pains etc

Thanks all. I think park is a good shout although she is not walking yet so no wellies or possibility of puddle stomping!

She'd be happy being pushed around in the pushchair with the raincover but her dad wouldn't want that as for him it's about the "face to face" time.

I don't think it's teething unfortunately as it's a different colour from when she's teething.

Worried about cancelling when he's literally caught a flight to be here (and will be furious) but obviously her needs come first, and good point she may feel worse as the day goes on.

Is it supervised?

Walking around an indoor gallery or shopping centre with her in the pushchair is fine, the important thing is not allowing her to interact with other kids. It could be she is fine now though, these bugs can be very quick to come and quick to go.

@AJPTaylor yes, by a family member

Hmm, a toughie. I see what you're saying about him having flown to see her, seems harsh to cancel if she's fine in herself and it's only two and a half hours anyway.

I've googled how diarrhoea is transmitted. Apparently, direct transmission occurs through contact between hands contaminated with faeces and the person's mouth; indirect modes of transmission are through ingestion of contaminated food or water, contact with infected soil, utensils, etc., and transmission by flies that have crawled on faeces

So, as long as he thoroughly disinfects anything she touches with disinfectant wipes and ensures he washes her hands after he changes her nappy, I'd have thought she'd be OK to go to Mcdonalds or somewhere with him. Obviously pack her a lunch because the food there wouldn't be appropriate.

Or the park if she's got one of those waterproof onesies with a hood? Then if he brings a towel he could dry off the swing for her? (Remind him that kids can break their legs going down slides with adults so he must not do that). Is there a nearby zoo he could take her to? Or an aquarium? Basically anywhere she can look without touching, as apparently diarrhoea isn't airborne.

If your child lived with her father , he wouldn't avoid his child with Diarrhoea. If the contact is supervised with family member then you just hand over and let them crack on. It is not remotely reasonable to cancel contact (especially one involving long distance travel) because of illness. If he wants to play a parental role - then he needs to deal with illness. Kids don't come wrapped for convenience!

Options with a bad tum are
Pushchair around shopping centre.
Supervising family members home and accept that there is a possibility of others picking up the same bug.

Could they go to family member's home?

Thanks again everyone.

The contact has to take place somewhere public due to risk-assessment in place, which makes the illness issue trickier.

I'll ask family member to pass on that she should be kept in the pushchair or carried. Last time this happened, when she had hand foot and mouth and also felt rubbish, he refused to do this because of wanting "face to face" time and a chance to bond through play.

It's tricky as I think family member feels a bit intimidated and won't stand up to him if he refuses a request.