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Quick poll re non invitation to wedding and card

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Rockbird · 08/06/2019 18:04

Briefly, family member getting married v soon, me and my sibling are the only members of the family not invited (I'm half pissed off that I wasn't, and half glad because I don't want to go anyway). One of my parents, whose side this wedding is on and who acknowledges they had a cheek not inviting me, thinks I should send a card anyway and be the bigger person. WWYD?

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helpmum2003 · 08/06/2019 18:06

I would send a card, you will be the bigger person and hopefully they'll feel suitably uncomfortable.....

BlueMerchant · 08/06/2019 18:07

I'd be torn between thinking no definitely not card and passive aggressively sending one.
Think I'd send a one Grin ( a very tasteful one of courseWink

senua · 08/06/2019 18:11

Sent a card to the Best Man - one of those "to be read out at the Breakfast from those not attending".
Definitely no gift.

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TitianaTitsling · 08/06/2019 18:12

Depends on why not invited, numbers/finance/no relationship- polite card wishing well, not invited to be mean? Sod all!!

Leeds2 · 08/06/2019 18:13

I wouldn't send anything.

BollocksToBrexit · 08/06/2019 18:14

I wouldn't send anything.

Tavannach · 08/06/2019 18:15

If you're friends on Facebook can't you just like the photos when they inevitably appear. "Congratulations!! You both look so happy!"

darjeelingisrank · 08/06/2019 18:15

I'd send a card, but the fuck I'd send money or a gift.

RonSwansonsMustacheComb · 08/06/2019 18:18

I think if you're half glad because you didn't want to go anyway then they've done you a favour. I'd probably send a card if it were me.

Readytogogogo · 08/06/2019 18:23

I think sending a card is the right thing to do. Extra points if you get a bulky one so that it looks as though there's a gift card inside.

senua · 08/06/2019 18:24

Whatever you do, make sure sibling does the same!
How do they feel about it?

magneticmumbles · 08/06/2019 18:24

I wouldn't send anything. They won't be expecting it.

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Rockbird · 08/06/2019 18:28

Hmm. Well I have given my parents a card to take. Under great sufferance, I objected with every fibre of my being. I don't know why we weren't invited, the mother of the bride is my godmother and she was great when I was a kid but totally disinterested in me since I grew up. Bollocks are they getting a present, in fact I folded the envelope flap rather than sealing it so they were under no illusion that it held anything else! And I bought a horrid card Wink

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Rockbird · 08/06/2019 18:29

Sibling couldn't give less of a fuck!

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Walkamileinmyshoesbeforeujudge · 08/06/2019 18:30

Send a card. An empty card.
Very PA imo!!

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