More ear piercing problems

[twosoups1972]

I have posted before about my 12 year old dd's problem with her ear piercings. They were done last year (with a needle) but has had problem on and off with soreness etc. She had been taking them in and out for PE which was aggravating them.

A few months ago we got permission from school for her to keep them in for PE and cover them with tape. She started wearing small gold studs. This has really helped and we've left them alone, they look much better.

However, now she has a residential trip coming up and they are not allowed to wear any jewellery for activities and they are really strict on this. She hasn't got the hang of taking them in and out herself. She is ASD and has a low pain threshold.

Do you think it's better to a) try and encourage her to manage them herself so she only has to take them out for activities? Or b) take them out and leave them at home for the week? She'll be away from Sunday morning to Friday evening. Will they close up in this time?

They won’t close after a week. Leave them out.

I remember your thread

I would take them out for the week. If they do close up to the extent you can’t get an earring back in (and they might - aggravated and troublesome piercings can close up faster than you think) leave them to heal up. You’ve tried really hard but it’s not worth the pain and aggro.

My daughters has these for school, keeps the holes open but can't tell she's wearing anything

I don't know if you have much choice really, if you think them being taken in and out will irritate. You might just have to take the risk they'll close up.

Any mileage in her trying to do them herself but at bedtime and in the morning? So she is just putting them in for bed and taking them out in the morning, rather than taking them out for activities when she's in a field with no mirror. Might even be able to get a friend or member of staff to help at that time of day, and if she misses a few nights it doesn't matter.

After a year the holes should be permanent anyway so they probably won't heal over in the space of a week.

Thank you all.

@oopsy I actually have some of those plastic retainers at home, I bought them a while ago but didn't use them in the end. Aren't they still 'earrings' though?

I would wear the retainers, or see if you can get flesh coloured ones (body jewellery shop do them and I can highly recommend), they're hardly even visable.

They are still earrings but aren't really visible, I think a teacher would have to be really keen to spot them