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What level of 'anti-social behaviour' would you find acceptable in a house share?

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blindedbytiredness · 08/06/2019 08:15

Name changed as told a few people about this situation and don't want to be outed. I am currently living in a house share for young professionals and have been here for nearly 3 years. In that time I have seen numerous changes in tenants, some of whom I have made good friends with and others who have just kept themselves to themselves but been nice enough and considerate enough to live with.

Around Easter time a new girl moved in and since then it's all gone down hill.
It started with minor annoyances e.g. using other people's food and leaving communal areas really messy (then proceeding to tell me and my other housemate that it's our fault it's untidy), all of which were irritating but nothing I could get worked up about.

Then the second bank holiday in May came around and both myself and the housemate I'm good friends with (our 4th housemate spends most of his time at his girlfriends so have never really spoken to him) didn't stay at home on bank holiday Sunday. My housemate arrived home before me on the Monday and was greeted with new girl and 3 men fast asleep on the kitchen floor with alcohol and weed all over the place, he ended up tidying the place up after she went up to her bedroom at lunchtime as apparently it stank of weed and burning as she had burnt some food to a crisp in the oven too. That afternoon our elderly neighbour came round to tell us the noise had been unacceptable overnight until 7.30am, we apologised and explained it was a new girl and we would have a chat with her.
Fast forward to now and I've just had a sleepless night as her and two friends have done the same again. After repeated requests they did turn the music down at 2am but still carried on talking loudly, laughing and screeching keeping us all awake. I could hear them mimicking us asking them to be quiet so haven't bothered saying anything again despite only having about 2 and a half hours sleep last night.

Just for extra info she has also lost her keys and refuses to pay our landlord for a new one so has openly admitted she is leaving the house unlocked whenever she is last to leave for work and has woken me up many times over the past couple of weeks banging on the door to get in.

So my question is at what point do we say enough is enough and say something to our lettings agent about our concerns? I understand it's a house share so there will be noise but I'm concerned that it's also affecting our lovely neighbours and getting to an unacceptable level. I need to email our agent today about something un related this, should I mention our concerns too?

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XXVaginaAndAUterus · 08/06/2019 21:23

You and your other housemate need to insist that something is done. The landlord will not want their insurance invalidating with the door being left open for crying out loud, let alone noise nuisance complaints from neighbours, drugs and theft.

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 08/06/2019 21:24

And put your things from the kitchen in your locked room before you go.

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 08/06/2019 21:25

.... and just don't let her in when she's banging and wailing to get in. A night on the porch or with the neighbours ringing the police might knock sense into her.

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Whosorrynow · 08/06/2019 21:25

No wonder you don't like her, her behaviour is thoroughly reprehensible, she's taking the piss and everything she gets away with just gives her licence to get away with more.
She definitely needs to go!

Whosorrynow · 08/06/2019 21:27

I would be concerned that she will soon be turning up with intimidating undesirable types who behave threateningly when challenged about their antisocial antics

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 08/06/2019 21:31

You really don't need to ask about this. She doesn't belong in a remotely civilised houseshare - get her chucked out ASAP.

BogglesGoggles · 08/06/2019 21:31

You have a legal obligation to report the use of weed on your property/a property you are occupying to the police. If she is a professional then I imagine that could go quite badly for her. Your ll would presumably be quite concerned about smoking on his property (unless they allow smoking?). I would also tell your neighbour to calm the police if it happens again.

IndistinctRadioChatter · 08/06/2019 21:39

They don't even flush the toilet after 10pm

Well that’s pretty antisocial in its own way.

ThatLibraryMiss · 08/06/2019 21:39

And put your things from the kitchen in your locked room before you go.

And your nice toiletries, and anything remotely valuable.

blindedbytiredness · 08/06/2019 21:47

Thanks for all your advice, I feel stupid now for even having to ask what to do!! What will be the process if she does get evicted? How long does that take?

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blindedbytiredness · 08/06/2019 21:49

Haha and yes I don't mind the toilet being flushed!! Like I said some noise is acceptable (I have had friends round until 12pm ish in the past) but she is just taking it too far now.

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Whosorrynow · 08/06/2019 21:51

Don't feel stupid, when people behave outrageously but are unapologetic it kind of messes with your head because they act as if what they are doing is normal, plus most of us are socialized to be polite and expect the same from others.
When other people trample all over social norms it can be very difficult to know what to do.

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 08/06/2019 23:11

What will be the process if she does get evicted? How long does that take?

What's in her tenancy agreement, does she understand the law, and how much will she dig her heels in?

blindedbytiredness · 08/06/2019 23:37

I will have a look at my agreement although hers may be different as I moved in a while ago. Whilst I was cooking tea last night she and a friend were in the kitchen (when they were talking about her friend moving in) and she was telling her friend how many places she had lived in over the past 3 years...it totalled 8 Shock. She told me when she moved in that she left her last place as her house mate threatened her with a knife because she woke him up once when she was drunk, I'm starting to think that wasn't 100% true...

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BadLad · 09/06/2019 01:02

They don't even flush the toilet after 10pm

Even after a shit?

I couldn't live with people who don't flush.

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