Chinese wedding guest outfit dos and don'ts - advice please!

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I'm attending a black tie wedding in October. My friend (Singaporean) is marrying her fiance (Danish).

It's going to be a very British style wedding (church, country house hotel). But I am also aware having been to her 21st and 30th birthday parties that despite living in London, and being very Westernised, there will be culture-specific wedding guest dos and don'ts that I should adhere to.

Things like; green is unlucky, red is lucky, but not usually worn at weddings as the bride traditionally wears red (she won't be).

She has also given strict instructions for there to be no pastel or pale colours.

I've done some googling, but I'd love to hear from any past or present Chinese brides, or wedding guests at such an do if there's anything I should bear in mind.

Thanks in advance.

Black, white and red are the only three colours to avoid wearing at a Chinese wedding. White is traditionally associated with funerals so that's probably why pastels are to be avoided. However 99% of Chinese brides I know love wearing a big white wedding dress :P! My guess is she's given the dress code instructions to please older, conservative relatives. If she's wearing a white dress herself then she won't be personally offended by any guests wearing that colour.

Plum, burnt orange or anything with a golden sheen are definitely good colours to wear. Those are associated with good fortune without edging too close to red (reserved for the bride even if she's not actually going to wear it). Navy blue and dusty rose are also good colours. Those are neutral in terms of association and it's easy to find dresses in those colours.

This is great advice, thank you.

I was erring towards navy, or gold, or gold and navy, or maybe a dark rose (but dark enough to definitely not be pastel) - I read somewhere that warm golden shades were appropriate.

I'd love to wear purple or plum, but it makes me look like a corpse.

Thanks again!