Hi there.
Sorry you havent had ideal news at your scans, but please dont worry too much.
We had a similar experience at 20 week scan. They were not sure if it was renal dilation or a duplex kidney. At 24 weeks we had another scan and turns out baby has both! So a duplex kidney, and the top part has renal dilation. Just had another scan at 28 weeks (we must be due around the same time) and they can see a small build up of fluid, but nothing they wouldn't expect at this point. As baby gets bigger and produces more urine, it will naturally show more on the scan.
We started off being really worried, but the hospital has been fantastic and very supportive and reassuring. If your baby just has the dilation, it could well correct itself, either later in the pregnancy or after baby is born.
We too were told it was more common in boys-however we are having a girl! Confirmed by harmony test, 20 week scan and 24 week scan lol.
We have been told the plan of action will be another couple of scans while pregnant to monitor things. Then 6 weeks of anti biotics for baby when she is born and then a scan at 3 weeks. But they have emphasized it is nothing to really worry about. The anti-biotics are preventative. The scan is just to see what is going on. This will not cause any problems for baby while she is inside. The only concern they seem to have is that she may be more prone to urine infections as she grows up. But as long as we know what to look out for there shouldn't be any issues. Now the plan is being drawn up, it will be added to the front of my notes so that when she is born everyone will know exactly what the plan of action is. They said it shouldn't affect delivery, they wouldn't induce me, and should not have to stay any longer in hospital. They will just make sure she is wee-ing ok, and show us how to administer the drops and what to look out for.
They said this is actually quite common-about 1 in every 100 20wk scans pick this up. And if it is just the dilation then there is a good chance it will correct itself. They also said that there are actually many people walking round with this condition, a duplex kidney, or indeed only 1 kidney that dont even know! It is picked up more these days as the scans are sooo good.
Please try not to worry to much. You will be monitored and so will baby. It is not ideal news, as you just want your scan to come back 100% normal, and you dont want your baby to have to face anything as they grow up. But everything I have been told and everything I have researched suggests that it is quite easily managed. I also keep telling myself (and I am in no way trying to trivialize this) that there are worse things they could have found on the scan.
I wish you all the best and hopefully it will correct itself. X