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How long to get over someone?

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OhDramaLlama · 05/06/2019 09:51

Okay so I know this isn't a one answer question, but I am wondering how long I will spend my time overthinking everything, reading too much into what he says.

We broke up 3 weeks ago after being together 8 years, I am feeling okay atm. Still get a little weepy at times, mostly when the dc asks me awkward questions.

I am trying to focus on myself and my own happiness right now. I am trying to figure out what makes me happy. What hobbies do I want? What I want to do with my life? Not in a rush to figure any of these things out, but am trying to keep myself focused on my future, and positive that regardless of what happens I will be fine.

However, during all of this I am still reading too much into everything he says or does. It's like I'm waiting for him to figure out that he wants me, I blame bloody romantic movies and books.
I am trying to accept that it is over, and I am trying to move on. Have been sorting/rearranging the house the way I want it.

So I suppose what I want to know, that I won't feel like this forever. That at some point in the hopefully not too distant future I will be fine. I won't read anymore into his texts/our talks than what is said. Or am I doomed to be like this forever??

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Jupiters · 05/06/2019 10:03

It just takes time. You won't feel like this forever. I've found finding ways to get distracted (DC's/work/hobbies/ect) heeled massively. In time these feeling will fade.
Good luck!

CatSmize · 05/06/2019 11:53

In my experience, the absolute best way to start to get over someone is to go no contact. I always used to remain friends with my exes when deep down I still wanted us to be together despite it not working. I was so upset that I thought having their support was helping me. However, it really dragged things out.

NC is definitely the way forward. You can always be friends again much further down the line when you no longer have feelings of love/attraction. Flowers

OhDramaLlama · 05/06/2019 17:26

CatSmize as much as that’s a good idea. I can’t go no contact. We have 2dc together, I am trying to limit all contact to getting his stuff out of the house and just about kids

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