Unhappy can anyone help

[Rose220]

I'm soo unhappy with the lack of photos I have of myself with my baby in her first year that it's really getting me down. When she was born I was juggling looking after my middle son who is autistic, my eldest son going to comprehensive school and moving house. I took soo many photos but it wasn't until a year later I realised I'm only in a handful of photos in her first year. I have two after she was born and 1 or 2 a month after, that I am in with her. I don't now why but I'm really sad over it. I feel bad Im not in them. She clearly loves me and I love her soo much. But I keep upsetting myself over it.

There's no photos of me until I'm 7 years old. I have no photos of me and either of my parents, at all.

Take lots of photos now. You can't revisit those days but you can make sure you've got photos now, and everyone understands that the early days are tough!

Remind yourself that these will be the best photos anyway, with your baby being smiley and engaging with the world more.

Bear in mind that having a comprehensive photographic record of someone's early years is only a recent thing. Go back to before the advent of the digital camera and most people only have a handful of childhood picture.

However, it makes the ones you do have more precious.

At the risk of sounding cliched, it's your memories that are important, not the photographs - ultimately a photograph is just a catalyst for your memory. If you don't have photographs, it doesn't mean the memories aren't still tucked safely away for you to enjoy.

Did you have people around you and visiting in her first year? You could appeal to them for pictures?

In the days before the beginning of time, you had to use a hand held camera with film inside. This then had to be taken to the chemist and sent away to be developed which took about a week, and when the photos came back they were usually rubbish. And it was expensive. So as you can imagine, there are only one or two photos of me as a child and none with my DM. Don't be sad. Just take loads more now, including selfies with the baby

Mine are adults and photos of them as young children were taken on a camera and put into albums and only looked at very rarely, probably not in the last ten years and my daughter now has all the albums but her and her partner looked through them once and now they are stored away.

I know some people like looking at their photos regularly but from what I know most people don’t really bother.